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Coming home from the military
#11
RE: Coming home from the military
If the they are serving and found to need anger management then it is as much their duty to attend the course as it would be to charge a machine gun nest.

Failure to attend would be actionable.



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#12
RE: Coming home from the military
My only suggestion would be talking, catching up with him.

Perhaps, if he's out of the military for a while, you can get him to smoke some weed and learn to let go of the assholes of life. If not, don't even bother considering anything other than alcohol (which does little to mellow most people out, unfortunately).

Given the passive-aggressive fucks I knew at college, he'll find it extremely trying not to beat the living shit out of some people (of which doing such earns a probably expulsion).

There are also veterans groups. They might allow, in some mentoring or group counseling capacity, better return to civilian life.
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#13
RE: Coming home from the military
I'll look into the veteran's group thing. Smile

He drinks, but not in excess. I WISH I could get him to smoke a little, but when we were younger, he used to freak out about cooking with alcohol because it was "underage drinking". Oh, Nick. <3
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#14
RE: Coming home from the military
The soldier in me asks "Why would I want to go back to being a civilian?"
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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#15
RE: Coming home from the military
My nephew is a counselor for veterans ( he ex-military himself) at a college. Part of his job is to get them to use their GI benefits to enrol in the school and the main part is to hold their hands and get them through their classes. He is very frustrated. These are guys who did not necessarily get their brains scrambled by an IED. They may well have spent 4 years on a carrier steaming around the middle of the Pacific but they get out of the military and find that the skills which they had or learned are damn near useless in the civilian sector. The myth he is running into is that they have the discipline to buckle down and succeed, but they drop out or flunk out in droves. For far too many of them they never had the academic background to make it in college - that's why they ended up in the military in the first place. It is a major national problem.
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#16
RE: Coming home from the military
(November 5, 2012 at 4:08 pm)Minimalist Wrote: My nephew is a counselor for veterans ( he ex-military himself) at a college. Part of his job is to get them to use their GI benefits to enrol in the school and the main part is to hold their hands and get them through their classes. He is very frustrated. These are guys who did not necessarily get their brains scrambled by an IED. They may well have spent 4 years on a carrier steaming around the middle of the Pacific but they get out of the military and find that the skills which they had or learned are damn near useless in the civilian sector. The myth he is running into is that they have the discipline to buckle down and succeed, but they drop out or flunk out in droves. For far too many of them they never had the academic background to make it in college - that's why they ended up in the military in the first place. It is a major national problem.

I'm very aware of that, which is why I made this thread, really. I just want my brother to be happy and successful in life. Do you know if most colleges have personnel like your nephew?
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#17
RE: Coming home from the military
I don't know.
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#18
RE: Coming home from the military
Annik - I would encourage your brother to seek counseling. The transition from the military to civilian life can be very difficult, and he doesn't need to go it alone.

Beyond that, there's a world of vocational schools as well as colleges and universities that may suit him. Many will have resources for veterans. A starting point for him may be the local VA office.
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#19
RE: Coming home from the military
(November 5, 2012 at 3:41 pm)Annik Wrote: TINO, I just now saw your post. I don't think I can talk him into therapy, but I'll certainly try.

I don't think you can talk someone into therapy, and I would never tell someone that they need therapy. At most you could that you think therapy might help him. But he'll probably need to see that his anger is a problem before he'd be willing to make a change.
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#20
RE: Coming home from the military
That's what I mean by "talking him into" it. Lol
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