RE: Im atheist but my wife isn't
June 7, 2013 at 1:34 pm
(This post was last modified: June 7, 2013 at 1:51 pm by BlasphemousMusic.)
SO many replies!
I'll make an attempt at covering them. First off, the "drunken tirades" are me and her having fun then get into a very mild, sometimes fun, this is why I believe what I do. Its not an abusive thing, not mentally nor ever physically! I guess I kinda said that wrong. We both enjoy a drink together.
- and I tried to hit home Im not as much trying to "convert" her as I am trying to show my wife, the one Im married to, what I have found. I was a christian for 20 years until I finally was like wtf? It was really hard for me, it was like being shown my mom who forced me to church all those years had lied! But anyway, im not as much trying to force her but show her that shes all ready there and she can have her own path!
- Her father in law wasn't ever like the way he was. He was led by his former wife in life and decisions. Not in a bad way but they both jived real well but he needed someone in his life to guide him and tell him what to do. She did that. This new one, shes a (insert bad word here) and even my wife is seeing this now. I want to keep the kids away from him because he 'Might' have influence on them when she goes to visit here soon. Hell, he might even do it to my wife too. To be honest tho, hes not a huge concern for me or her, moreso for the kids but even then since he watches fox news and reads the bible, it would be simple to refute what he believes if I had to.
- I guess its hard to explain to someone else. She unfortunately isn't very educated as her parents let her drop out of school in the 9th grade. I think this has a lot to do with it. But dawkins anything usually ends up too complex at times. She HATES debates, I love the hell outta them. This is why a documentary/movie does pretty well I think. Its also due to my hatred for religion she takes as all atheists are angry. Maybe I should let her watch the cosmos or something similar.
Im greatful for the replies and im still going to try to address as much as possible to help myself and the reader understand a bit more.
Quote:As to the OP, why does it bother you so much that your wife holds spiritual beliefs? Did it ever occur to you that the problem lies not in her beliefs but in your inability to accept them?
This made me kind of think.
It does kind of bother me at times for different reasons. My inability to accept them is for the same reason I do not accept the world is flat. Its not true. Well, for me at least its not true.
One of the biggest reasons now I care about it, whereas I never really have before, is her father as he is now and my kids actually are starting to question.
I made a promise I wouldn't even mention I was a non believer till they were older as long as she did the same. So they had literally no influences either way and could fully decide for themselves. I wish I was so lucky.
Im afraid if I were to die she'd lead them to a path of randomness that she believes instead of being critical thinking people. If at 18 or 20 they found religion, to be honest, I wouldn't care as much. If they found it on their own to be true then so be it. Granted I would talk to them about it then if they wanted too but the influences of others are starting to happen and I wanted to help curb it.
So, yes, in part you could say its my inability to accept someone has random beliefs and do not follow any sort of guidance but more so believe because they like it.
