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Family stuff :(
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Family stuff :(
As you all may know, muslims are supposed to pray the 5 prayers everyday and its a sin if you won't do or even delay any of them.

So, when I came out as an atheist, I kept them 5 prayers so that no one suspects anything, but about few weeks ago, I just got sick of it and stopped pretending .

Now my mother realized that i'm not doing the prayers, and she's upset and says that i'm going to hell just like my grandfather(He didn't pray at all) and he will never see heaven and other crap like that . I hated what my mother said about my grandfather, cuz I liked him alot, I used to watch WWE with him all the time( He liked WWE alot Smile )

She is not only upset, but she says she is not ever gonna talk to me if I didn't start praying and tell her whenever i'm going to pray, to be sure that i'm not lying . I was like: WTF is this shit ???? Angry
She's always serious about the not gonna talk to you thing Sad

I don't want to cut my relation with my mother, so what should I do ? Should I just tell her that i'm an atheist ? That shit scares me alot, I have zero idea what would be the outcome .
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#2
RE: Family stuff :(
Are you financially independent?
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#3
RE: Family stuff :(
(April 12, 2014 at 6:27 pm)FlyingNarwhal Wrote: Are you financially independent?

nope, i'm so far from that.
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RE: Family stuff :(
(April 12, 2014 at 6:30 pm)Marsellus Wallace Wrote:
(April 12, 2014 at 6:27 pm)FlyingNarwhal Wrote: Are you financially independent?

nope, i'm so far from that.

To paraphrase the Greek proverb, 'First secure an independent income, THEN tell your Mum you're an atheist.'

Boru
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#5
RE: Family stuff :(
As an outsider looking in, I can't fathom a parent whose love is based solely on their children doing and believing exactly as they do and believe.

It's just so contrary to to the whole bullshit that most religions try and promote, ie that whole love your neighbor bollocks.

Love your neighbor, for sure, so long as they don't infringe on the almost infinite number of caveats. Let alone you're own fucking son.

Apologies, I have no advice to give. I just find people so fucking pathetic sometimes. I guess religious belief is one hell of a drug if it means you're willing to castigate your own spawn for being independent.
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#6
RE: Family stuff :(
It sounds as if you are pretty well screwed until you are in a position to tell her and her fucking god where to go.
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#7
RE: Family stuff :(
Parents just want what they think is best for their kids... even if it's a delusion or simply misguided.
If you don't plan on faking it until you're independent:
-Tell her, if she's right, you'll get to see your grandpa and be with him...it's important to be with family, even after death. Grandpa shouldn't be left alone for eternity.
-if she's wrong, then nothing happens... and she'll be the one responsible for the splitting of the family.It's important to be with family, specially while alive.
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RE: Family stuff :(
(April 12, 2014 at 6:30 pm)Marsellus Wallace Wrote:
(April 12, 2014 at 6:27 pm)FlyingNarwhal Wrote: Are you financially independent?

nope, i'm so far from that.

When you can't afford to lose your job even though you hate the work, you still do it. If you need your mother's support, then pretend to pray. I mean, after all, it's certainly not going to hurt you.
There is an ALLLL-knowing, ALLLL-powerful, inVISible being who is everywhere, who created the WHOLE universe, who lives in another dimension called heaven, who is perfect in every way, who was never born and will never die, and who watches you every minute of every day (even when you're squeezing one out on the toilet). There are also unicorns, leprechauns, Santa Claus, an Easter Bunny, and a giant purple people eater.

JUST BELIEVE IT!
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#9
RE: Family stuff :(
If you're not financially independent you may have to take the hard road and work things out for yourself or keep your convictions to yourself and go through the motions to keep your "mother" (I use the word as loosely as possible) placated.
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#10
RE: Family stuff :(
I dunno, say something Islamic, like, about halaal food or something. Maybe she'll be happy with that...

I've never been a Muslim! LOL
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