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Advice for dating a Christian
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Yeah, I guess more info is needed. If she's relgiously liberal, just be open but respectful. If she's the kind to post on the rapture ready forum, head for the hills.
Even if the open windows of science at first make us shiver after the cozy indoor warmth of traditional humanizing myths, in the end the fresh air brings vigor, and the great spaces have a splendor of their own - Bertrand Russell
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Copenhagen School  Religious Views: Its all bullshit to keep you handing money to the usher. (January 5, 2015 at 10:27 pm)bennyboy Wrote:(January 5, 2015 at 9:50 pm)Mental Outlaw Wrote: I've dated a couple Christian girls, and all of them became less christian (ie going to church less, questioning their faith, etc) by dating me atleast for a time. Idk if its because I watched shows like cosmos with them all the time, or if they just saw that I was good without God, but if you don't make a big deal about it then you should be fine. Actually she goes to a non denominational church that rents a school for Sundays. Beyond that i could name my favorite bible verse much faster then her. Matthew 6:3.
To-morrow, and to-morrow, and to-morrow,
Creeps in this petty pace from day to day, To the last syllable of recorded time; And all our yesterdays have lighted fools The way to dusty death. Out, out, brief candle! Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player, That struts and frets his hour upon the stage, And then is heard no more. It is a tale Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, Signifying nothing. 
Simply keep religion and atheism out of it, there is much more than these two beliefs in the world, and its healthy to have your own beliefs and opinions. If you can't talk to each other about things you both don't agree with, then don't get too involved with each other because its not going to last.
 (January 5, 2015 at 10:45 pm)Lemonvariable72 Wrote: Actually she goes to a non denominational church that rents a school for Sundays. Beyond that i could name my favorite bible verse much faster then her. Matthew 6:3. My guess is that what will matter between you is not how educated in Christianity she is, but how much she cares about it. So find out how much it matters to her. The more important it is to her, the sooner you'd better come out as atheist. It's like ripping off a bandage, it hurts more, the slower you peel it back.
If there is a god, I want to believe that there is a god. If there is not a god, I want to believe that there is no god.
I've only had one experience of this, and it ended badly. But I think it will depend entirely on how strong her religious feelings are, and how well she can keep them separate from your relationship. I'd agree being up front and talking it all through is the way to go.
I would lean towards thinking it is generally a bad idea, though. Feel free to send me a private message.
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January 7, 2015 at 1:09 am
(This post was last modified: January 7, 2015 at 1:09 am by dyresand.)
Also the bible is not just for reading you can smite her really good with it
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Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you
One of my exes so far was Christian and I really felt uncomfortable with that. I have no advice. Of course american style dating is pretty harmless, so just go for it. The important thing is to be yourself from the beginning I think. If you're out of the closet and the topic comes up, I'd be honest, otherwise it'll just become awkward in the long run if the relationship works out...
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
Psalm 14, KJV revised edition
RE: Advice for dating a Christian
January 7, 2015 at 6:18 am
(This post was last modified: January 7, 2015 at 6:19 am by Dystopia.)
(January 7, 2015 at 6:08 am)Alex K Wrote: One of my exes so far was Christian and I really felt uncomfortable with that. I have no advice. Of course american style dating is pretty harmless, so just go for it. The important thing is to be yourself from the beginning I think. If you're out of the closet and the topic comes up, I'd be honest, otherwise it'll just become awkward in the long run if the relationship works out...What's the deal with American dating style? For some reason in my language there's no word "dating", it's just called "going out with someone", and when the two start calling each other as boyfriend and girlfriend, they form a pair and are called a "couple" (though with a different word) The problem is I can't just be polite and try to work it out, I'll probably have to denounce BS on religion and that's why I can't be with someone with an irrational position - I won't lie. A deist would be fine as long as she was open minded I guess, but Christians hell no... When I started dating my girlfriend she was supposedly a Christian, though she never prayed, or read the bible or talked about god, it was just a childhood meaningless label without importance - And now that I've rented her a good novel from a native writer about atheism she is beginning to let go Catholicism and on her way to atheism or at least deism. However if we're talking about American style Christian then I'd never date that person, the kind of person who goes to church every week and keeps saying "I'll pray for you" or "God bless our love" - Sex ought to be boring, lol
Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you
Easiest to just become a Muslim, and then just throw back any crap you get from them replacing jesus with Muhammad and God with Allah. Guaranteed to be a tie at worst.
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