Misconceptions about Homosexuality

[Oldandeasilyconfused]

Are all Gay people Promiscuous?

No, that's an unsupported stereotype. I can't remember any gay person telling they were gay on introduction. Usually someone told me or I found out when they made a pass at me.


My sister is gay,and I've been around gays of both sexes for about 35 years. Some of them (including sis) were pretty slutty in their youth, like some straight people. Now in late middle age most have settled down .Some have been with their partner for decades. (which is longer than my marriage lasted)

[WingedFoe]

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Although there is the biological argument: that men are more promiscuous because they have more "seed" to spread. Women need to be more selective because they have only so many opportunities to pass on their genes.

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In each breeding, only one sperm and only one egg make it. It would equally be in some women's best interest to have a different father for each of her babies, just as some men want many mothers for their babies.

What I meant was that women have to go through pregnancy and rear the child, hopefully finding a long-term partner to help her with the process. Men have no such obligation, and can go impregnate as many women as they please. It would therefore be evolutionarily advantageous for women to be less promiscuous than men, and for men to have millions of sperm produced daily.

Of course, social evolution is running counter this, with monogamous relationships being the norm.

[Violet]

In the off chance this thread does not instantly derail into something else, for the purposes of this discussion I'd like to define 'Homosexuality' : pertaining to, or noting the same sex.

I'm going to have to question these definitions... instead of showing the numerous potential flaws and uncertainties... allow me to offer an alternative:

Why instead don't we simplify the definition of 'homosexual' to being what you mean to describe (which seems to be simply 'Androphiliac male (to the exclusion of other attractions? Not certain if you intend this.)' and 'Gynephiliac female (again to the exclusion of other attractions?)'. Or do we mean to refer exclusively not to the people involved in the attractions but rather to the form of attraction itself... which would be homosexphilia (or some other similarly intended word, as I'm uncertain of how to conjugate that properly... and again... is this meant to be exclusive from all other attractions a person might have (meaning that they are solely attracted to the same sex as themself))?.

Sex being the reproductive organs you were born with. No different than if I went and grabbed two frogs out of my pond and determined their "sex" by examining their reproductive organs.
In short, Saerules is welcome to share in the Gay response.

I agree that I am of the male sex (and despite my pestering adrian once or twice... I still can't change my noted sex on the forum without giving people the wrong idea), and further agree with your 'definition' of it However... I don't think it would necessarily be appropriate for me to 'share' in the 'gay response'... as to do so I would have to be gay (I'm assuming you mean this as exclusive attraction? :S I certainly am androphiliac... but hardly exclusively so...). Not like it's going to stop me from saying what I will... but thought I should ask anyway ^_<

Misconceptions about Homosexuality
I think I may have some. Since these boards seem to be dominated by the gay-folk maybe I can have some of my personal conclusions debunked or affirmed "straight from the horse's mouth", so to speak.

^_^ I'm the worst person to ask... just thought you should know ^_^

So these questions or misconceptions of mine are directed at the Gay/Homosexual members here, males or females.

1.) Promiscuity.

Gay people will 'do' anything or anyone. This seems to be the reason (since I asked the last one who did this and received no answer, I feel compelled to go with my own conception, or misconception) lots of gay-folk feel the need to announce the sexual preferance at first introduction. "Hi my name is Gaylord and I'm Gay!" or "My name is Stroker and I am a gay/homosexual (fill in the blank)."

I disagree.... some people (not necessarily "gay" or "straight" or "aliens" or even me) will have sex with <anyone or at least a large number of people>... but I hardly could think it is related to being 'gay'... that simply wouldn't make any sense

I also find it strange that some "gay" people identify with that status so much that they would introduce themselves with it... but I hardly think it is anything more than their own self identification. Perhaps they only want to hang with people cool with their being "gay", and so they find out who they can hang with by saying that immediately.

It's like when someone introduces themselves with a title such as "Hi my name is Dotard and I'm an air-conditioning technician." it's included in case you need some a/c repairs. Or "Hi! My name is Shister. I am a realitor." it's included just in case you are in the market for some reality services. "Hi my name is Shelby, I'm a writer." on the off chance you may be looking to pay a writer to have something written.

Or perhaps because they identify with their status as an A/C tech, realty, or writing that they note it as a significant part of who they are.

So when I hear "I'm Frank and I'm Gay". I'm hearing "I'm Frank and I'll suck your dick. Not that you're looking for a man to suck your dick, just throwing that out there."

Are all Gay people Promiscuous?

If you were at a pub... i should think that your return to hearing "I'm Frank and I'm gay" should be "Do you want to suck my penis?". Elsewhere though, it's much more likely that they simply identify with their status of being "gay". I myself identify with being a gamer, eccentric, an existentialist, a human, and some other few things.

Not all "gay" people are promiscuous... though some certainly are. Myself? I should think everyone here would already now the answer to that

[KichigaiNeko]

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Although there is the biological argument: that men are more promiscuous because they have more "seed" to spread. Women need to be more selective because they have only so many opportunities to pass on their genes.

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In each breeding, only one sperm and only one egg make it. It would equally be in some women's best interest to have a different father for each of her babies, just as some men want many mothers for their babies.

What I meant was that women have to go through pregnancy and rear the child, hopefully finding a long-term partner to help her with the process. Men have no such obligation, and can go impregnate as many women as they please. It would therefore be evolutionarily advantageous for women to be less promiscuous than men, and for men to have millions of sperm produced daily.


Unless they were witches and new their Herb lore......mmmwwaaahahahahahaha
Of course, social evolution is running counter this, with monogamous relationships being the norm.

[Violet]

I'm heterosexual and, prior to getting married, I was extremely promiscuous.

Then you settled into a mono relationship. Can homosexuals do the same? I know the gay can be in relationships, living together and sharing the bills and taking turns cooking, and loving each other. Do gays become monogamous? Why do gays announce their preferance when nobody is asking?

Yes, 'homosexuals' can do the same. By choice? Not necessarily... not to imply that it is not by choice.

By the way... after a conversation with leo recently... I've discovered it would be more correct for what you appeared to suggest to say monophilogamous (one sexual bond) rather than monogamous (one bond).

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When I was single....back before the last ice age....if I heard the phrase "I'm [Susan] and I'll suck your dick" it was, I admit, an instant attention getter.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's as good a pick up line as any. I think if I were ever really desperate, that would work like a charm. *writes it down for future reference*

I memorized it... not like I'm ever going to need it

[Zen Badger]

I think you nailed it, Scented Nectar. Men are promiscuous by nature. Gay or straight... men tend to be promiscuous.

Men are wired by evolutionary needs to fuck anything.

It's natures way of spreading the genome.

In fact Evolution can explain most of our behavior when you think about it.

[Violet]

I think you nailed it, Scented Nectar. Men are promiscuous by nature. Gay or straight... men tend to be promiscuous.

Men are wired by evolutionary needs to fuck anything.

Weird... I have this odd urge to be fucked by 'anything'

It's natures way of spreading the genome.

One side of that... there is of course this side you seem to be neglecting...

In fact Evolution can explain most of our behavior when you think about it.

Of course it can. But not all of it. Take me for example.

Just who or what thought that this would be a good idea?

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If you said "Aliens"... you'd be pretty damn close.

[Loki_999]

Of course it can. But not all of it. Take me for example.

Just who or what thought that this would be a good idea?

If you said "Aliens"... you'd be pretty damn close.

Rimmer - is that you?

LOL... nobody thought you were a good idea, but thanks to (in spite of) evolution your parents were not gay (or were and still did the squelchy) and survived to have a child, Miss egg met Mr sperm, they shared their genetic information and you were the result. Now, if you already have a child or will have a child, and that child survives then evolution has succeeded again. If you don't/won't for whatever reason then your genetic line will die, an evolutionary dead end.

All questions answered.

[leo-rcc]

A friend of mine is in a homosexual relationship and has been for over 20 years and never during that time ever engaged in any promiscuity (so he says at least but I don't really doubt it).

[Dotard]

Thank you all for the insights.

Just in case any was wondering, this was serious and had no ulterior motives.