Misconceptions about Homosexuality

[Dotard]

In the off chance this thread does not instantly derail into something else, for the purposes of this discussion I'd like to define 'Homosexuality' : pertaining to, or noting the same sex.
Sex being the reproductive organs you were born with. No different than if I went and grabbed two frogs out of my pond and determined their "sex" by examining their reproductive organs.
In short, Saerules is welcome to share in the Gay response.

Misconceptions about Homosexuality
I think I may have some. Since these boards seem to be dominated by the gay-folk maybe I can have some of my personal conclusions debunked or affirmed "straight from the horse's mouth", so to speak.
So these questions or misconceptions of mine are directed at the Gay/Homosexual members here, males or females.

1.) Promiscuity.

Gay people will 'do' anything or anyone. This seems to be the reason (since I asked the last one who did this and received no answer, I feel compelled to go with my own conception, or misconception) lots of gay-folk feel the need to announce the sexual preferance at first introduction. "Hi my name is Gaylord and I'm Gay!" or "My name is Stroker and I am a gay/homosexual (fill in the blank)."

It's like when someone introduces themselves with a title such as "Hi my name is Dotard and I'm an air-conditioning technician." it's included in case you need some a/c repairs. Or "Hi! My name is Shister. I am a realitor." it's included just in case you are in the market for some reality services. "Hi my name is Shelby, I'm a writer." on the off chance you may be looking to pay a writer to have something written.

So when I hear "I'm Frank and I'm Gay". I'm hearing "I'm Frank and I'll suck your dick. Not that you're looking for a man to suck your dick, just throwing that out there."

Are all Gay people Promiscuous?

[Paul the Human]

I'm heterosexual and, prior to getting married, I was extremely promiscuous. I certainly don't think promiscuity is something that only applies to homosexuals.

That said, it is true that the 'gay lifestyle' has the image of rampant promiscuity. I don't think it's as extreme as it seems, though. Heterosexuals can be just as promiscuous, but it goes relatively unnoticed in society, because it is considered 'normal'.

[Dotard]

I'm heterosexual and, prior to getting married, I was extremely promiscuous.

Then you settled into a mono relationship. Can homosexuals do the same? I know the gay can be in relationships, living together and sharing the bills and taking turns cooking, and loving each other. Do gays become monogamous? Why do gays announce their preferance when nobody is asking?

[Shell B]

I'm heterosexual and, prior to getting married, I was extremely promiscuous.

Then you settled into a mono relationship. Can homosexuals do the same? I know the gay can be in relationships, living together and sharing the bills and taking turns cooking, and loving each other. Do gays become monogamous? Why do gays announce their preferance when nobody is asking?

To be honest, I haven't had this experience with those darn gays in my "real" life.

I have two family members who reside on opposite ends of the gayness spectrum from each other. (one's a homosexual, one's a lesbian) Both have been settled down into mono relationships since I was a teenager. In fact, one of them is happily married. So, yes, "gays" become monogamous.

As for the announcement thing, I've only ever seen it in the way you described online. I've only ever had people tell me that they are gay after I've known them for some time and they always told me in private conversations. It was more of a disclosure than an announcement. This has happened a few times. On the flip side of the coin, I've been introduced to gay people by mutual friends and had our mutual friend being the one making the announcement. Straight people have no discretion!

[Minimalist]

I'm hearing "I'm Frank and I'll suck your dick

When I was single....back before the last ice age....if I heard the phrase "I'm [Susan] and I'll suck your dick" it was, I admit, an instant attention getter.


Perhaps that's just me?

[Shell B]

When I was single....back before the last ice age....if I heard the phrase "I'm [Susan] and I'll suck your dick" it was, I admit, an instant attention getter.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure that's as good a pick up line as any. I think if I were ever really desperate, that would work like a charm. *writes it down for future reference*

[Paul the Human]

So when I hear "I'm Frank and I'm Gay". I'm hearing "I'm Frank and I'll suck your dick. Not that you're looking for a man to suck your dick, just throwing that out there."

Are all Gay people Promiscuous?

Actually, this sounds like a bit of 'homophobia'. He's letting you know he's gay, perhaps because it is important to him to be able to say it out loud and not be condemned for it. Perhaps he is simply new to the concept of being out of the closet and is over sharing. Whatever. You hear something he did not say.

Maybe... you jump to that thought because 'gay people' do that to each other and the idea repulses you. The thought of him doing that to you makes you feel uncomfortable, so you immediately assume he is offering. That is homophobia.

[Scented Nectar]

I'm bisexual (with only rare exceptions to being straight these days), but during the 80s, I considered myself completely lesbian, having lost interest in men completely for a while and finding women attractive around the same time. Most guys back in the 70s were lousy in bed, back before porn and other media made the clitoris more known about, so women were the hornier choice for me to prioritize instead of acting on my actual bi-ness. I was too shy back then to just say to men what I needed or explain about the clit, etc.

For promiscuity, back then anyways, among lesbians it was very difficult to find sex. I would have been very happy if they were as promiscuous as the straight men who I had offers of sex from, but unfortunately I was still not getting as much as I wanted. The only promiscuity happened at bars where everyone was extremely drunk and sweaty from dancing - not my thing. I suspect that this is still somewhat true today to an extent, since I hear there is still a political anti-sex attitude that's prevalent. In the reverse sexism of the radical feminist cult I used to be part of, much of sex was thought to be oppressive and male and victimizing and objectifying, etc.

Men (gay or straight), seem to be much more relaxed about the idea of casual sex. And from what I have seen anecdotally, straight women are much more promiscuous than lesbians. Maybe just because there is so much more opportunity for promiscuous straight women to take advantage of.

[Paul the Human]

I think you nailed it, Scented Nectar. Men are promiscuous by nature. Gay or straight... men tend to be promiscuous.

[Scented Nectar]

I think you nailed it, Scented Nectar. Men are promiscuous by nature. Gay or straight... men tend to be promiscuous.

I think it's partly a societal upbringing thing. Most of us women feel expected to always attach emotions to the physical part of sex, even though in real life one does not necessarily have to both happen to enjoy sex. Also, there is the societal expectation that sluttiness is bad and shameful, versus studliness for a man is nudge nudge wink wink admirable. Us women come with more sexual baggage usually (and unfortunately). That will change, I think, and is happening already, where there are some of each gender are promiscuous, and some of each who are not.