Telling my parents

[bennyboy]

I do not know how and when to tell them I am no longer a believer. I have to tell them because they are so against sex before marriage and cohabitation that they need to know I don't think its wrong because I am an athiest. They are super close minded and will be very angry and sad and there will be lots of arguing. Does anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation?

Thank you!

Here are the steps:

1) Tell them. Doesn't matter how, and doesn't matter if you even want to. It's just going to happen.
2) Listen to the tears and prayers. Shout at them, have a big fight, enjoy the drama.
3) Years later, perhaps when you are about to have your first baby, call your mother. Mothers like babies.

Seriously, though, nobody here can give you good advice on how to get through it. It will be very hard, and will involve a lot of stress, and by going through it, you will earn the right to call yourself an adult.

[Patrick33]

It might be an idea to confide in one of your brothers if there's one you particularly trust. I do agree with many of the posters here, though - no need to broach the religious aspect when telling your folks you're moving in with your boyfriend. I'd only tackle that issue at this stage if they bring it up as a reason against the move.

[Alex K]

Hello OP, are you still with us?

[kikiwallflower]

Hello, I am almost 19 years old, living in a christian household. My parents are very active in the church, I have not been going recently and my parents haven't mentioned it. They usually just let me sleep cause I was at work late, etc.  I am going on a month long trip with my boyfriend in November and immediately after we will be moving into an apartment together. I am finically independent besides my cell phone, and living in their home.  None of my brothers and I actively show interest in church or the bible but they still assume we believe in god.  

I do not know how and when to tell them I am no longer a believer. I have to tell them because they are so against sex before marriage and cohabitation that they need to know I don't think its wrong because I am an athiest. They are super close minded and will be very angry and sad and there will be lots of arguing. Does anyone have any advice or been in a similar situation?

Thank you!

Be sure you have all of your financial ducks in a row before doing it.  Car, rent, phone, food/utilities, enough money to pay for deductibles/co-pays, that sort of thing.  That way, if they threaten to cut you off from your phone or not accept you back if your relationship with your boyfriend turns sideways you can simply shrug it off.

And, they're against premarital sex and premarital cohabitation, but not against you going away for a month with your boyfriend?  That seems odd.

I haven't told them about the trip yet. We have our tickets already and are planning on getting a place immediately from getting home so we dont have to pay rent while away for a month. I have over 10g in savings and my boyfriends family is very supportive of us as they are not religious.

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[KJV-reader]

Just tell them. It's not really any of their business anyway. They brought you up but don't own you. Just do it in a calm compassionate way and tell them you love them no matter what. Yeah they might be pissed but I'd be truly shocked if they ever ended up hating you over it, for strters they'd be poor Christians.

My opinion you can be what you want God still loves you.....yes even atheists who don't believe in God and couldn't give a fuck about God.