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Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
#31
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
(October 5, 2016 at 2:48 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: Thanks for the kind words, but it doesn't seem to be working so far ...

Oh, they're not just kind words. Trust me...I know what women want.
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#32
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
(October 5, 2016 at 2:48 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: Thanks for the kind words, but it doesn't seem to be working so far ...

...well, in that case...

(October 4, 2016 at 12:03 pm)Rhythm Wrote: Give up, you're unlovable and deserve everything that;s ever been done to you, there's no one out there for you and no one out there who wants you. You will never find love, you will never find a partner again."

Wink

In seriousness, though, does anyone else find that having someone recite your most pessimistic fears breaks their spell? It makes me crack a smile. Hearing someone else say the worst of what I may be thinking makes me realize that I don;t really believe it to be true.
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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#33
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
(October 4, 2016 at 11:28 pm)InquiringMind Wrote: Thanks for the responses.  I wasn't really looking for "relationship advice" because you all probably don't know me well enough to be able to offer advice for my particular situation.  I was hoping to discuss some larger philosophy of relationships, though this does have application to me.


I'm pretty sure every relationship is at most a particular relationship.  So I don't have any general advice to offer even if you were asking.  I do think people blow romance up all out of proportion to its significance.  Life has a way of coming to feel 'right for me' no matter which way it turns out.  But I do know this.  I like being in a relationship with someone who has all the dirt on me and vice versa.  I figure if I can live with me it can't be too much to ask someone else to do the same.
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#34
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
(October 5, 2016 at 3:54 pm)Thena323 Wrote:
(October 5, 2016 at 2:48 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: Thanks for the kind words, but it doesn't seem to be working so far ...

Oh, they're not just kind words. Trust me...I know what women want.


Well shit, woman, spill the beans.  We've been looking for you for a long time.
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#35
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
Pass me the playbook coach!   I wanna run a deep route on this one.

Thread needs moar soundtrack-
I am the Infantry. I am my country’s strength in war, her deterrent in peace. I am the heart of the fight… wherever, whenever. I carry America’s faith and honor against her enemies. I am the Queen of Battle. I am what my country expects me to be, the best trained Soldier in the world. In the race for victory, I am swift, determined, and courageous, armed with a fierce will to win. Never will I fail my country’s trust. Always I fight on…through the foe, to the objective, to triumph overall. If necessary, I will fight to my death. By my steadfast courage, I have won more than 200 years of freedom. I yield not to weakness, to hunger, to cowardice, to fatigue, to superior odds, For I am mentally tough, physically strong, and morally straight. I forsake not, my country, my mission, my comrades, my sacred duty. I am relentless. I am always there, now and forever. I AM THE INFANTRY! FOLLOW ME!
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#36
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
(October 5, 2016 at 4:01 pm)Whateverist Wrote:
(October 5, 2016 at 3:54 pm)Thena323 Wrote: Oh, they're not just kind words. Trust me...I know what women want.


Well shit, woman, spill the beans.  We've been looking for you for a long time.

Well, there is the small matter of my fee to consider... Angel
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#37
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
(October 5, 2016 at 3:57 pm)Rhythm Wrote:
(October 5, 2016 at 2:48 pm)Thumpalumpacus Wrote: Thanks for the kind words, but it doesn't seem to be working so far ...

...well, in that case...

(October 4, 2016 at 12:03 pm)Rhythm Wrote: Give up, you're unlovable and deserve everything that;s ever been done to you, there's no one out there for you and no one out there who wants you.  You will never find love, you will never find a partner again."

Wink

In seriousness, though, does anyone else find that having someone recite your most pessimistic fears breaks their spell?  It makes me crack a smile.  Hearing someone else say the worst of what I may be thinking makes me realize that I don;t really believe it to be true.

Enter me Wink
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#38
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
(October 5, 2016 at 4:25 pm)Thena323 Wrote:
(October 5, 2016 at 4:01 pm)Whateverist Wrote: Well shit, woman, spill the beans.  We've been looking for you for a long time.

Well, there is the small matter of my fee to consider... Angel


Why you wh....!

I mean .. but of course everyone has to eat.
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#39
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
Here is someone who has done some research into relationship.  Don't agree with all of it but certainly food for thought.

https://youtu.be/vwbKYcBdVyk
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#40
RE: Why Does No One Change the Incorrect Relationship Narrative?
(October 5, 2016 at 3:57 pm)Rhythm Wrote: In seriousness, though, does anyone else find that having someone recite your most pessimistic fears breaks their spell?  It makes me crack a smile.  Hearing someone else say the worst of what I may be thinking makes me realize that I don;t really believe it to be true.

Well, it ain't something I'm afraid of. Before my last long-term, I lived for ten+ years as an outside cat, and while there's sure a sweetness to being in lifelong love, there's a joy in not having to answer to anyone for things, and I like my freedom. Just sometimes it doesn't fill the other niches I want.

I'm a realist. I don't believe that there's any Other Half out there for me, only that I could find the gal I spend the rest of my life with tomorrow, or I could never find her at all. And I'm cool with that.

It might have read as morose, but it's not. It's just realism given voice.

Do I believe any of it to be true? Shit, I don't know what the next five minutes holds, much less the next five months or years.

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