Birthday gift for someone who says they don't want a present.

[vorlon13]

I would suggest money or maybe a gift card for her favourite store, you could also take her out for a meal or something.

If you go out for a meal and adult beverages are a possibility, surreptitiously, make ABSOLUTELY certain the bartender THOROUGHLY scrutinizes her ID. 

(they love that!!)

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

If you can manage it, pay one of her bills for her - doesn't need to be anything major, but this month's credit card installment, her mobile phone charges, etc. That way, it isn't so much a 'gift' gift, but it both serves to show your appreciation and gets you off the potential hook of not doing anything at all.

Boru

[Little lunch]

I always make something for my ex's birthday, with the help of my daughter.
This year we bought a small, rectangle, concrete tray, filled it with sand and placed seashells, rocks and driftwood on top.
Then I used a barbie doll to put footprints walking through the middle.
I'm actually working on another one at the moment. I've cut a small coconut shell in half which I'll fill with hydroponic sand and put a miniature cactus inside. :-)

[Thumpalumpacus]

I want to buy my ex girlfriend a birthday present.  I do this often as a token of apreciation for being a good mother to my daughter.

She's said she doesn't want anything and she feels depressed at the idea of getting older, she's 26.

Even though she's said she doesn't want anything I know in girl language that means if I don't buy her something she'll want to stab me through the neck with a screwdriver.

So the question is what do you buy someone who insists they want nothing?

A better question that would probably help me out, is what would you buy someone if you had to buy a gift for someone you don't know?

I do know her but with the gifts I've bought her in the past I'm running out of ideas, possibly something funny or a bit weird or outside the box.

Give her a "Happy Birthday", and spend the money you would have spent on her gift to buy a nice leather collar.

You know you like that sort of stuff anyway.

[Neo-Scholastic]

How about writing her a heartfelt letter about what she means to you, how much you love her, etc. On nice stationary or course.

[vorlon13]

How about writing her a heartfelt letter about what she means to you, how much you love her, etc. On nice stationary or course.

followed by some great German/Japanese bondage tentacle porn and a night of depraved and disturbing debauchery !!

[Shell B]

Mani/pedi

Tickets to something was a good idea someone already mentioned.

Dinner for the three of you.

Just as a side note, it's not girl-speak to say you don't want something and really do want something. Sometimes, I tell Tibs I don't want something because I genuinely can't think of something I need/want and don't have. He always manages to find something, though. My point is, maybe she just really doesn't have room in her life for more stuff, so, as people have mentioned, an experience is probably better.

[vorlon13]

Indeed.

[paulpablo]

What I ended up buying was a voucher for Starbucks because she mentioned going there on her break from work.
I got her a more expensive voucher for places where you can buy roast dinners because she likes English food, I think English food like that is really bland it boggles my mind that someone would choose to go to one of those places but I also offered to go with her.

On her card I told her not to worry because she still looks 19.
Shell be happy probably.

[Shell B]

Good job. Something she can use is always the way to go. Happy birthday to your baby mama.