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I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
#11
RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
From the perspective a a Midwesterner it doesn't make much sense. They lost the war. The Confederacy no longer exists so there is nothing to celebrate. However, it was explained to me this way by a Southerner.

The South's defeat was extremely humiliating. That defeat was followed by a pervasive and unwanted injection of Yankee culture. The only way for some to salvage any sense of dignity was to celebrate the nobility and courage of those who fought and died even if they were ultimately doomed. It's a kind of Beautiful Loser mentality - you can knock me down but you can't take away my pride.
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RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
(May 16, 2017 at 2:18 pm)Neo-Scholastic Wrote: From the perspective a a Midwesterner it doesn't make much sense. They lost the war. The Confederacy no longer exists so there is nothing to celebrate. However, it was explained to me this way by a Southerner.

The South's defeat was extremely humiliating. That defeat was followed by a pervasive and unwanted injection of Yankee culture. The only way for some to salvage any sense of dignity was to celebrate the nobility and courage of those who fought and died even if they were ultimately doomed. It's a kind of Beautiful Loser mentality - you can knock me down but you can't take away my pride.

"pervasive and unwanted injection of Yankee culture" sounds a lot like "they told us we can't own black people any more", tbh.
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#13
RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
(May 15, 2017 at 8:50 pm)It_Was_me Wrote: It is essentially the same thing as the Nazi flag. It is the symbol of traitors. Funny thing is, they say the Civil War wasn't about slavery. But then you ask them why and they say states rights. Then you ask them what states rights, they then respond with the right to have slavery. I just don't get it. How can one call themselves a good person and support the South and it's actions? These are the same people telling people to get over it, when it comes to the election. I also hear them saying it's part of their heritage. lmao! I have a relative who was a slave trader, but you don't see me idolizing him.

If you don't understand, why don't you find out? Not understanding something isn't an intellectual strength.
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RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
(May 16, 2017 at 2:43 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote:
(May 15, 2017 at 8:50 pm)It_Was_me Wrote: It is essentially the same thing as the Nazi flag. It is the symbol of traitors. Funny thing is, they say the Civil War wasn't about slavery. But then you ask them why and they say states rights. Then you ask them what states rights, they then respond with the right to have slavery. I just don't get it. How can one call themselves a good person and support the South and it's actions? These are the same people telling people to get over it, when it comes to the election. I also hear them saying it's part of their heritage. lmao! I have a relative who was a slave trader, but you don't see me idolizing him.

If you don't understand, why don't you find out? Not understanding something isn't an intellectual strength.

Isn't that what he's doing? He's asking.
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RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
(May 16, 2017 at 2:47 pm)J a c k Wrote:
(May 16, 2017 at 2:43 pm)CapnAwesome Wrote: If you don't understand, why don't you find out? Not understanding something isn't an intellectual strength.

Isn't that what he's doing? He's asking.

Really? Because the only question in his diatribe is a rhetorical one which calls people who support the confederate flag bad people
Quote: How can one call themselves a good person and support the South and it's actions?

My guess is that this is just slamming people who support the confederate flag, not a real quest for understanding someone else's culture. There seems to be this frightening celebration of not knowing or not understanding things that has been going on lately. "I don't understand all these ....." (Trump supporters, college students, millennials, etc etc) as though not understanding other people is some sort of virtue. Now I'm not from the south, so I'm not really qualified. Nor do I have strong feelings about the confederate flag, as I'm not black either. So I don't really think about it that much, however giving the benefit of the doubt that this is really a quest for understanding and not a quest to have other people validate his opinion, here is the best documentary I've seen on it.



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#16
RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
I admit this only because I want own up to my mistakes and let others in on the mindset of people like my family. I used to be a racist. Y'all think you were indoctrinated with religion try growing up in a racist household. Well I mean it was religious too but when I told my step dad I was an atheist he laughed and said it was a phase. When I tried to have a black boyfriend... well that only happened once and I never dated one again out of fear.

I haven't even read the rest of this thread until I say my side so I'm not getting multiple directions here with my thoughts. I will tell you right now that the confederate flag IS about racism and the racists will fight tooth and nail to pretend it's not. For most of my childhood I looked up at the living room walls at five hand drawn portraits of confederate generals with confederate flag backgrounds. A few other confederate flags hung around that house. I was taught that racism was okay because we as whites were better than black people. I laughed at racist jokes at ten years old and retold them to friends. My first bikini was the confederate flag and my first car had it on the bumper sticker. When people said the civil war was about slavery I became livid. I would get so passionate about how it was about states rights not slavery. About how the states never signed up for letting the federal government dictate all the laws and just like during the revolution the states just wanted to have their own say. That bumper sticker I mentioned? It said "If this flag offends you, you need a history lesson."

Why wouldn't it offend? I don't care that it's not the real confederate flag as we racists used to say it still represents a time when half the population wanted to keep a whole race of people as property. The racists still hold that flag dear to them. Despite me saying it was about southern heritage not racism I knew the truth just like every racist I knew. If a white person hung around black people we would harass them and they would be labeled as wiggers. But still we claimed that flag was NOT racist... how did we even pretend that made sense?

My step father was my hero and he was the most racist person I have ever met but he was my hero because he was cool. He had long hair, rode motorcycles, had tattoos everywhere, listened to rock metal... so different from my army mom and biological father. The racism was taught to me by him and my soldier mother was the bread winner and never home enough to keep telling me it was wrong (plus I mean really she said she hated the racism and the flag but yet let it hang in our house so...) This is how racism breeds. It is passed down and taught that is isn't bad. It's taught that the generals were just fighting for the only way of life they knew. That it is a part of history and the lives lost still honored (mind you this is the weak excuse why there are death threats about New Orleans taking down the confederate statues which is pathetic)

I got away from my step father and the longer I was away from him the more I realized how horrible of a human being he was. The years past and with horror I saw who I had become and it sickens me to think of the things that once came out of my mouth. It sickens me to see other people still like that. Then again I got away from my bad influence, they didn't. Which is so sad and why there are still so many still defending these things. They were taught by people they loved and trusted to act and think this way and have no reason to think they are wrong. All I personally can do is tell my story so that maybe someone will realize that loved ones aren't automatically morally good.
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#17
RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
From what I understand, most people who defend the confederate flag do so because to them, the confederate flag stands for Southern pride and rebellion against the government. To them, it has nothing to do with slavery and they don't support slavery.
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly." 

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#18
RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
Mind you I am still proud of my southern heritage but my view on that heritage has nothing to do with plantations, slavery, cotton, flags... it's about boots, hats, biscuits & gravy, saying hello to people you pass by, sitting on the porch drinking sweet tea, around a fire drinking beer, about southern drawls, wide open spaces, country music, bbq, line dancing, hospitality, pulling over to the side of the road to check on the person broken down, knowing everyone in the store, small towns, and just in general southern charm... that is my heritage.
“What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our head of what it's supposed to be.”

Also if your signature makes my scrolling mess up "you're tacky and I hate you."
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RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
(May 15, 2017 at 8:50 pm)It_Was_me Wrote: It is essentially the same thing as the Nazi flag. It is the symbol of traitors. Funny thing is, they say the Civil War wasn't about slavery. But then you ask them why and they say states rights. Then you ask them what states rights, they then respond with the right to have slavery. I just don't get it. How can one call themselves a good person and support the South and it's actions? These are the same people telling people to get over it, when it comes to the election. I also hear them saying it's part of their heritage. lmao! I have a relative who was a slave trader, but you don't see me idolizing him.

The Stars and Stripes represent the country that nuked Japan.
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#20
RE: I don't understand; why do people defend things such as the confederate flag
And killed a bunch of indians
"Of course, everyone will claim they respect someone who tries to speak the truth, but in reality, this is a rare quality. Most respect those who speak truths they agree with, and their respect for the speaking only extends as far as their realm of personal agreement. It is less common, almost to the point of becoming a saintly virtue, that someone truly respects and loves the truth seeker, even when their conclusions differ wildly." 

-walsh
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