Have you ever "ghosted" someone? Why?

[TaraJo]

I ghosted someone.  I kinda had a justifiable reason.  I think.

This was all the way back in the 90's.  So, I knew something was "different" about myself but I didn't know what.  I thought maybe I was gay.  I had a boyfriend for a while, but dating guys.... something didn't feel quite all right at the time.  Especially sexually.  One night, he had a party at his house and there was a guy he invited over who was a power bottom and we did a kind of three way thing.  That was painfully awkward and uncomfortable and weird for me and it was like the wakeup call I needed to tell me, no, you are absolutely not a gay man.  

But I was still lost and confused and didn't know what to say or do so..... yeah, I just kinda ghosted the boyfriend.

So I spent the next ten or so years confused, trying to figure myself out.  I came out as transgender and that fit me way better than being a gay male ever could have.  It was like, things just started falling into place for me.  I even got back in contact with the guy I had ghosted.  He did say that he thought he did something wrong, and I apologized and assured him that, no, he didn't do anything wrong.  He understood, but, yeah, part of me still does feel bad about how that all went down.