Black Pill Dating Theory?

[FrustratedFool]

Fair enough, no worries. Have a good day.

[Fake Messiah]

But I strongly suspect a Brad Pitt lookalike has an easier time getting a first date than Danny DeVito lookalike.

Not necessarily. It depends more on the behavior of the person and his communicativity. Someone can look like Brad Pitt but if he is too shy or awkward or creepy or just can not communicate he will have a hard time getting dates.

On the other hand, if someone looks like Danny Devito but is charming and communicative, then he will get more dates.

Hell, there is literally a movie about it with Devito and Schwarzenegger called "Twins".

[brewer]

Did they truly not care whatsoever about looks?  That would be rare, I think.

I'm no Robert Redford.

I'd pick Tom Petty for you.

[FrustratedFool]

But I strongly suspect a Brad Pitt lookalike has an easier time getting a first date than Danny DeVito lookalike.

Not necessarily. It depends more on the behavior of the person and his communicativity. Someone can look like Brad Pitt but if he is too shy or awkward or creepy or just can not communicate he will have a hard time getting dates.

On the other hand, if someone looks like Danny Devito but is charming and communicative, then he will get more dates.

Hell, there is literally a movie about it with Devito and Schwarzenegger called "Twins".

I suppose a hideous personality will reduce Brad's chances, and an ungodly amount of charm will slightly increase Danny's.

But even then I'd still put money on socially inept Brad getting more dates than charismatic Danny. Brad would get a thousand off tinder alone before Danny got a single one.

In real.life I've never seen charisma beat looks.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

But I strongly suspect a Brad Pitt lookalike has an easier time getting a first date than Danny DeVito lookalike.

Not necessarily. It depends more on the behavior of the person and his communicativity. Someone can look like Brad Pitt but if he is too shy or awkward or creepy or just can not communicate he will have a hard time getting dates.

On the other hand, if someone looks like Danny Devito but is charming and communicative, then he will get more dates.

Hell, there is literally a movie about it with Devito and Schwarzenegger called "Twins".

As someone who is homelier than a cartload of arseholes, I testify that this is true.

Boru

[arewethereyet]

I agree that a more attractive person is going to probably get more double-takes and possibly be approached more. But there is also the phenomenon of the really good looking people being passed over because they are seen as being too good looking and therefore couldn't possibly be interested in 'little ole me'.

There are a lot of things that go into being attracted to a person. Looks are often the first thing to catch a person's attention. But it could also be a case of being attracted to how they carry themselves or what they do...I was partial to drummers for instance. Some people are going to be attracted to athletes or really like the way a person dresses...so many things.

Like the guy I mentioned who thought it was his right to go through my guy's (not my guy for many years, but you get it) little black book and be sexually successful with everyone in there, I think this incel attitude comes from thinking they have a right to have sex with who they want. That's not how it works in a consensual sexual encounter.

Bitching about not getting laid is not the best way to entice someone into your boudoir, or backseat, or where ever unless you just want a pity fuck.

[FrustratedFool]

I've never seen a good-looking woman with an ugly man in my entire life. Not that personal experience likely counts for much.

[arewethereyet]

You must not get out much.

[FrustratedFool]

@arewethereyet

Totally agree about the role of subjectivity and the off putting nature of desperation or complaining.

But I think you're seriously underestimating the huge role looks plays in dating and just how you're treated by people in general.

[BrianSoddingBoru4]

I've never seen a good-looking woman with an ugly man in my entire life.  Not that personal experience likely counts for much.

Boru