(November 30, 2015 at 4:37 pm)Losty Wrote:

(November 30, 2015 at 4:34 pm)Beccs Wrote: My pics are all on FB.

And you've seen most of the good ones.

None of which I can post on the open forum.

I meant pics of you keeping CL company

When I can get there, I will.

As someone who suffered a terrible break up last year that involved lying and other stupid shit I didn't deserve, I can promise you that no "gotcha" moment actually gets justice for anything.

So if you're stuck on believing that he was in the right, that's fine, but fuck off for deciding we're kill joys for not thinking the same thing. Perhaps it's a maturity difference, or perhaps it's an age difference, or maybe it's simply a difference in values. Apparently the majority of us handle our relationships in a more private way and don't find shaming someone publicly like this to be adequate recompense in any fashion for what we might have suffered.

(November 28, 2015 at 10:34 am)Mermaid Wrote: I have little patience for peoples' drama.

Oh me too one of the things in life I am tired of is the Drama... in fact so much so I feel like this is sig worthy. Permission to quote this in my signature?

(November 30, 2015 at 12:04 am)Quantum Wrote:

(November 29, 2015 at 10:25 pm)Evie Wrote: I struggle to think of any of my tastes and interests that don't have some sort of irrational basis.

As the Scottish Philosopher David Hume said: "Reason is the slave of the passions."

How could they possibly have a rational basis? What would that even look like...

I agree I'm pretty sure ultimately it's all irrational, "Why do you like X?" "Because I like Y." "Why do you like Y?" "Because I like Z", and so on until it comes down to you don't know why you like what you like. It's all irrational and I think a lot of what you like or dislike is because you associate it with something else you like or dislike, but it all ultimately boils down to irrational passions.

(November 30, 2015 at 4:36 pm)Losty Wrote: We don't know these people. We have no way of knowing if she really cheated or if he's just a paranoid bastard. We have no way of knowing if he cheated on her. We have no way of knowing anything about either of these people except for that one is exceptionally spectacular at dildo karaoke.

I laughed so hard! I was reading it and agreeing with the serious point you were making and then the last sentence hit me and I almost pissed myself laughing!

(November 30, 2015 at 4:36 pm)Losty Wrote: We don't know these people. We have no way of knowing if she really cheated or if he's just a paranoid bastard. We have no way of knowing if he cheated on her. We have no way of knowing anything about either of these people except for that one is exceptionally spectacular at dildo karaoke.

(November 30, 2015 at 4:56 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: As someone who suffered a terrible break up last year that involved lying and other stupid shit I didn't deserve, I can promise you that no "gotcha" moment actually gets justice for anything.

Just because you would feel no sense of justice does not mean others would too.

Whether it is justice or not (or revenge) is besides the whole fucking point of him doing it anyway IMO.

Call me immature if you want, but I would be lying if I said part of me didn't enjoy watching a cheater being called out.

(November 30, 2015 at 4:56 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: As someone who suffered a terrible break up last year that involved lying and other stupid shit I didn't deserve, I can promise you that no "gotcha" moment actually gets justice for anything.

Yeah this goes to what we go into a relationship for in the first place. Is it really just to get the exclusive sexual use of a person we find attractive? Or does it involve any genuine regard/concern for that person? If I ever cared for her, why should I want to traumatize her or cause her to have even more difficulty making a relationship in the future? To do so does yourself a violence as well as her. Everyone understands the appeal of revenge. I just don't advocate it since it rarely satisfies.

(November 30, 2015 at 6:48 pm)Napoléon Wrote:

(November 30, 2015 at 4:56 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: As someone who suffered a terrible break up last year that involved lying and other stupid shit I didn't deserve, I can promise you that no "gotcha" moment actually gets justice for anything.

Just because you would feel no sense of justice does not mean others would too.

Whether it is justice or not (or revenge) is besides the whole fucking point of him doing it anyway IMO.

What they're feeling isn't justice. You can't get recompense for the time and energy lost.