(December 24, 2022 at 8:43 pm)Uberpod Wrote:

(December 24, 2022 at 7:29 pm)Angrboda Wrote: CBT can be useful to help retrain your mind not to interpret reactions and rejections in unrealistic ways.

Cannabis-Based Treats?

I was thinking Computer Based Training.

(December 24, 2022 at 10:31 pm)Fireball Wrote:

(December 24, 2022 at 8:43 pm)Uberpod Wrote: Cannabis-Based Treats?

I was thinking Computer Based Training.

You madcap, you.

Sexual desire adds meaning to life.

...where there was none before.

(December 26, 2022 at 6:56 pm)Uberpod Wrote: Sexual desire adds meaning to life.

So does soft served ice cream.

(December 26, 2022 at 8:27 pm)Jehanne Wrote:

(December 26, 2022 at 6:56 pm)Uberpod Wrote: Sexual desire adds meaning to life.

So does soft served ice cream.

One is slightly more compelling.

(December 26, 2022 at 9:09 pm)Uberpod Wrote: One is slightly more compelling.

"The psyche is an archive, culture denotes inhibition, memory is weaker than forgetfulness, perception works to prevent seeing too much and intellection to prevent understanding too much, a manifest virtue is the obverse of a latent vice, and one’s sexuality informs the highest reaches of one’s mind."

— Lou Andreas Salome (friend of Nietzsche, lover of Rilke, student of Freud)

(December 26, 2022 at 9:09 pm)Uberpod Wrote:

(December 26, 2022 at 8:27 pm)Jehanne Wrote: So does soft served ice cream.

One is slightly more compelling.

Depends on one's mood, of course.

(December 22, 2022 at 5:18 am)Macoleco Wrote: Based on personal experience and observation, it is quite easy to notice that men are on the constant pursue of women, mainly with the objective of having sex with them. The desire for a relationship may depend on several factors, such as falling in love with her, which can happen at first sight or after some time of friendship, or after certain age at which company is more desirable than lust. 

Nonetheless, for young men, such scenario of having a strong sexual desire, and not being able to easily satiate it, albeit temporaly, creates feelings of frustration, and even anger and resentment, which unfortunately have to be endured. And thus, men enter a vicious cycle, which makes them waste resources, time, and forces them to act into sometimes awkward and uncomfortable social situations, such as approaching women, which may lead into unfavorable situations. 

The option of prostitution is always available, which can be a curse in itself. Most men want to be desired the same way they desire women. Unfortunately nature decided to create women in a different a fashion. Prostitution has many shortcomings, like the possibility of being scammed or STD, the emptiness which one may feel after the act, or not finding a woman attractive enough. Using this service frequency can also become very expensive. 

Only few men are lucky enough to sleep with either highly attractive women, be it due to their looks, social circle, socio-economic status, etc., or with a woman they deem worthy of a relationship and capable of good sex. Now, these both scenarios do not satiate the desire of men permanently, but on a regular basis it keeps him satisfied, and the feelings of resentment and frustration disappear.  Still, the desire for different women will probably remain, although not as strong, as before.

Women know of such fact, either based on observation, experience, or instinct. And will use it as a weapon against man, mainly manipulation. Like the donkey that cases the carrot, man chases the woman who, might or might not, give him sex, which, will unlikely, fully please him, keeping him into the vicious cycle.

There is no solution to this dilemma, only ways to cope and keep the desire under control. Nonetheless, most men will still chase women, since the idea of putting one's sexuality aside is disagreeable. Time is limited, specially youth, and thus having as much sex as possible while feasible is something most men can not simply ignore, again, forcing them into this vicious cycle. 

Only time can end lust, in the fashion only death can end life.

I don't think it is a curse at all but one of the most profound joys available to humans.  I've had no trouble controlling myself.  But I've learned to control my feelings and emotions and I've always thought of sex as sacred and too important to engage in lightly.  The whole thing about men wanting to have sex with as many women as possible comes from biology.  The female, in most cases, produces few or a single gamete and spends enormous energy to protect and raise the offspring and to be very selective in mating while the male strategy is to produce numerous gametes and sew them with abandon and not spend enormous energy in raising and protecting and not to be as selective in choosing a mate.  

As human beings we have choices and we can have control over our actions and not let hormones and biological drives control us.  I myself relish the sight of a beautiful woman and feel no guilt in it but I have control over myself. I can look but not touch and I have a code of values that supersedes hormones and won't permit me to engage in casual sex.