I'm at that age when most of the availabe women I meet are divorcees, so they've already been through the wringer at least once.

I don't think people need to "pretend" to be interested in sports and hobbies to gain the attention of someone they're interested in. I'm myself. If I have to pretend to get a guy's interest, I'm not interested in doing that. I'm in my 30's and I never did that even in my 20's.

I go back to just being yourself. One less thing to complicate your life.

(March 5, 2014 at 3:54 pm)Mister Agenda Wrote: I'm at that age when most of the availabe women I meet are divorcees, so they've already been through the wringer at least once.

It's tough dating a woman whose heart has been completely broken before. Getting her to trust you and open up is like pulling teeth.

I've found that if you have to pretend, then you and that person either don't have enough in common OR you feel threatened by each other's separate hobbies.

I'm really not interested in a lot of the shit my boyfriend is, and neither is he in mine. We both like that the other has interests, though.

And we have plenty of things we do share.

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(March 5, 2014 at 3:54 pm)Mister Agenda Wrote: I'm at that age when most of the availabe women I meet are divorcees, so they've already been through the wringer at least once.

I sympathize with them, but hope you don't include them in the group who 'pretends' to like things.

(March 2, 2014 at 4:01 pm)Moros Synackaon Wrote: Easy – go to the girlfriend store.

http://www.russian-brides-club.com/
https://www.volgagirl.com/
http://www.thai-professional.com/ladies.htm

I think they are looking for husbands though, might be more commitment than you are looking for.

And let me be a myth buster.
Not every chick is looking for marriage. Yep. Shocking I know but men seem to like to think we're all clamoring for commitment.

futilethewinds, you are right about trust. I have huge issues from a recent break up and I admit, the walls I've built up are pretty high.

Maybe it just takes time.

(March 5, 2014 at 5:01 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: men seem to like to think we're all clamoring for commitment.

I think putting that stereotype on us is an easy way to dismiss our insistence that they act like adults on occasion.

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Also, you can want commitment...and not marriage.

We're not in any hurry to get married. Having no religion and wanting no kids is remarkably freeing of a $10k+ one day event to feed people cake.

(March 5, 2014 at 5:03 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote:

(March 5, 2014 at 5:01 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: men seem to like to think we're all clamoring for commitment.

I think putting that stereotype on us is an easy way to dismiss our insistence that they act like adults on occasion.

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Also, you can want commitment...and not marriage.

We're not in any hurry to get married. Having no religion and wanting no kids is remarkably freeing of a $10k+ one day event to feed people cake.

Do you come in male form?
You are awesome!

(March 5, 2014 at 5:08 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: Do you come in male form?
You are awesome!

Nah...I have a feeling the extra testosterone of being a male wouldn't combine well with the over-inflated smartassery.

(March 5, 2014 at 5:03 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote: I think putting that stereotype on us is an easy way to dismiss our insistence that they act like adults on occasion.

I act like an adult. On occasion. Well, more like for certain occasions

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(March 5, 2014 at 5:10 pm)thesummerqueen Wrote:

(March 5, 2014 at 5:08 pm)Deidre32 Wrote: Do you come in male form?
You are awesome!

Nah...I have a feeling the extra testosterone of being a male wouldn't combine well with the over-inflated smartassery.

Does that mean you are an intellectual badonk-a-donk?