Are you okay with your (or your partner's) vajayjay?

[Edwardo Piet]

Yeah well you're lucky lol

I didn't get my vajayjay experience until two years ago! haha

Now I haz none

>_<

[emjay]

Yeah well you're lucky lol

I didn't get my vajayjay experience until two years ago! haha

Now I haz none

>_<

Well, mine was fifteen years ago so I'd say you're the luckier one

[Edwardo Piet]

I didn't choose to have mine late >_______<

[emjay]

I didn't choose to have mine late >_______<

I'm sure you'll find love again 

[Edwardo Piet]

I'm sure I will one day

[Thumpalumpacus]

This is quite the straw-man here. Finding gay sex repulsive inside oneself is not nearly the same as refusing to be in the same room with a gay person. Are you reading what I'm reading? So far as I can see, no one has said they wouldn't share the same space with a gay person. Perhaps you should read what is actually being written in this discussion.

I don't look on gay sex as a "threat" to me, either. But I sure as hell don't want it. Why are my desires -- and my repulsions -- anybody's business, when I already understand that freedom for all to be who they wish is paramount? When I've already gone to the mat for equal rights? My feelings are my own -- but "threatened" isn't one of them.

I've asked myself why I find gay sex repulsive for my own personal circumstances. I don't owe you any answers (although I've given a couple, which you seem to have ignored), so long as I don't push my views on you.

If someone wants to call me a bigot because of that, great, have at it.  I know myself, and I know they're wrong about me.

Since I agree with MTL, I should clarify that I don't think being repulsed by homosexuality (inside) makes anyone a bigot. Not at all. All that matters is how we treat each other and I know you to be a guy who gives everyone a gracious greeting and after that "makes change in the coin tendered". You're no bigot.

But I believe there is something desirable about questioning the inner yucky. It is like when you do yoga and discover that there are muscle groups which are opposing your intentions and you learn to relax them. I think the (inner) yucky feeling toward gayness is like an inner tension which serves no function, a cultural relic that gives you nothing. You're better off without it. The icky feeling isn't you. It is just cultural overlay.

Well, as I said earlier, part of it is rooted in traumatic experience, although there was certainly social programming in play when I was younger. I addressed that for myself when I was 17; my best friend came out to me. After that, I recognized the sexual undertones of our wrestling (we'd have an occasional go at one another), and that's when I came to my understanding of human sexuality as being on a continuum.

I don't embrace my repulsion, and no, I didn't really challenge it until managing the adult video store and being exposed to viewing gay sex. I learnt to be objective about it in others. That's why I said I personally find repulsive ... it is only when I think about my partaking in it that that feeling arises in me.

[Athene]

Well, I don't have a partner, but I'm not sure what that has to do with it. 
 
That being said, it has it's ups and downs and makes me pretty angry sometimes. But it's been part of some of my happiest moments as well. I definitely have a sentimental attachment to it. I could take it or leave it if I had to, but I'm would miss it terribly (at least the first year or so.)

Wait a second.....vajayjay isn't another name for the state of VA, is it?

[Thumpalumpacus]

I wish we had a state named Quim.

[Whateverist]

How about the psychological eww of doing something sexual with someone you're not comfortable having sex with regardless of orientation??

I completely disagree with you. Eww isn't always about germs. People have a right to be uncomfortable with the thought of a sexual experience that makes them uncomfortable. It's not bigoted or immature.

It's hard to give a gender based example because I consider myself pansexual. But I would compare it to the thought of a sexual experience with someone who I am not comfortable. Eww. Yes the thought I have is eww. Some stranger who gives me a creepy vibe, the thought of doing anything sexual with them is eww to me. I don't think that makes me immature.

Anyone still having trouble generating a eww might try imagining their mom.  Or in Losty's case a disgusting old man like me.  =)

[Losty]

O_o
You seem to be implying that I would rather have sex with my mom than you


Being that you're quoting me. I have no problem imagining the eww at all.