(October 26, 2016 at 3:11 pm)Losty Wrote:(October 26, 2016 at 3:04 pm)pocaracas Wrote: Huh? They prefer to hold on to that ticket to jail?
People are messed up...
But a person that would have the guts to talk to a friend should find it relatively easy to seek proper professional help.
There is no ticket to jail. Honestly...it isn't illegal to be a pedophile. And I don't even think it makes you a bad person. It just makes you sick. If someone considers you a close enough friend that they feel comfortable coming to you about this problem they have then a reaction where you stop being their friend and tell everyone what they've said and call the cops on them even though they haven't done anything illegal...people fear this exact reaction. Why would anyone ever try to get help if simply saying you have a problem could destroy your friendships, your family, your career...
We as human beings have the potential to look at a group of people with compassion (or even general scientific interest) and try to learn about their problem, try to find a solution, try to come up with a solution that could help them. Instead we call them monsters and wash our hands of them. I don't think this is the right answer to any problem. We want to keep our kids safe and that's obviously the most important thing. But we don't have to stop there. Thats all I'm saying.
I don't recall saying I'd call the cops...
I'd encourage them to seek professional help. I know how crap I am dealing with other people's mental problems, so it's better to let someone who knows what to do to provide the correct help.
If a friend is telling me about something like this, he is, in essence, seeking help. I can't provide it, but can point in the right direction.
If he's not seeking help... Then what? Why talk about it?
If he doesn't seek proper help, then there's a high likelihood that he'd act on that, sooner or later... And that tends to lead to jail time.
But then again... If someone knows me well enough, they wouldn't bring that to me on the first place. (Exactly because I suck at helping in those cases)