What to do if someone tries to rape you

[Phatt Matt s]

So you were gay before you were sexually abused right?

Well yes I was I suppose, I didn't tell the full story because I hate when people say I deserved it, but to me its no different than a women going to a strait party, she just doesn't deserve that to happen.

I didn't say you deserved it. You should have pressed charges

[psychoslice]

Well yes I was I suppose, I didn't tell the full story because I hate when people say I deserved it, but to me its no different than a women going to a strait party, she just doesn't deserve that to happen.

I didn't say you deserved it. You should have pressed charges

Yes I realize that now, but back then it was very embarrassing for a guy to cry rap, its bad enough for a women, many guys do get raped but never report it, its sad but that's the reality of it.

[Cinjin]

I know, because I have been trained in that exact martial art, and I have personally used the techniques, primarily against guys that were above average in terms of physical fitness and strength, and against some guys that were HUGE and insanely fit and strong. And when I applied the absolute most efficient technique to shut down a potential attacker against them... guess what? None of those things changed a damn thing. It worked. And the thing I am suggesting specifically is basically choking them to death, by the way, which would be incredibly easy to do if you attacker did not expect you to do that, and most potential rapists specifically select targets that they think will be easy and not resist.

I am not saying that this would work in every situation. But if for some reason, women did this when they could not get away from their attacker, if they just did what I am suggesting, so many of them would not be raped, it is staggering.

I would like nothing more than for this to be true. However, an exorbitant amount of statistics show it to be otherwise.
Perhaps you are the exception - and I hope you are, but in a real fight between an average man and a "tough" woman, I'd put my wager on the angry aggressive male all day long, every day no matter what. Sorry, there's absolutely nothing you could say that could convince me otherwise.

[psychoslice]

Even the time I was shot by someone along the highway, it sort of felt like being raped, its someone taking your freedom away, and in stead of being pierced by a penis it was bullet.

[Chas]

If I am interpreting your choice to use that image correctly, you are trying to say something like the way to do what I just said is with a gun.

It is a possibility, but there are a lot of problems with the idea of carrying a gun around with you and personally, I think what women should do is learn how to kill a man efficiently and quickly with her bare hands.

That sounds more impossibly badass than I mean it to. It is totally easy and practical to do, as long as one has the money to pay for the classes. Well, damn. That's depressing. One's ability to do it depends on her socioeconomic status.

THIS WORLD IS A HORRIBLE PLACE.

I don't actually see that the photo admits of any other interpretation.

It takes a great deal of training and regular practice to be able defend oneself without a weapon. And if your attacker is 6' 2" and 250 lbs. then your chances of success are not good. If the assailant is armed, your odds drop alarmingly. If there is more than one assailant, you're screwed.

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You see, there is a martial art that will teach exactly what I suggested every woman should know, that is inherently designed so that it just works, and size difference and strength difference makes very little difference whatsoever, definitely not one of significance.

I know, because I have been trained in that exact martial art, and I have personally used the techniques, primarily against guys that were above average in terms of physical fitness and strength, and against some guys that were HUGE and insanely fit and strong. And when I applied the absolute most efficient technique to shut down a potential attacker against them... guess what? None of those things changed a damn thing. It worked. And the thing I am suggesting specifically is basically choking them to death, by the way, which would be incredibly easy to do if you attacker did not expect you to do that, and most potential rapists specifically select targets that they think will be easy and not resist.

I am not saying that this would work in every situation. But if for some reason, women did this when they could not get away from their attacker, if they just did what I am suggesting, so many of them would not be raped, it is staggering.

Please name that martial art. Or you will be 'wrong on the internet'.

[psychoslice]

I think pepper spray is the safest for a women ?.

[Phatt Matt s]

You're a funny motherfucker Chas!

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Even the time I was shot by someone along the highway, it sort of felt like being raped, its someone taking your freedom away, and in stead of being pierced by a penis it was bullet.

THat's an interesting way to put it. Which one damaged you the most

[My imaginary friend is GOD]

Well yes I was I suppose, I didn't tell the full story because I hate when people say I deserved it, but to me its no different than a women going to a strait party, she just doesn't deserve that to happen.

Didn't read the whole thing leading up to this question, put I'm pretty sure from context clues that I know what was said and if that is the case, you are right, and anyone who says different is a dick.

[NoraBrimstone]

All this defence talk is all well and good, but most rape doesn't happen like that. It will usually happen in a familiar setting with a person you thought you could trust. Young women are especially at risk of being raped by boyfriends who tell them they'll leave them if they don't have sex with them, or pull the old "if you loved me you would..." Coerced sex is rape.
Boys these days can easily get the impression from movies, TV and Porn that sex is something they're entitled to, and women exist for the sole purpose of getting them off. Who's there to tell them any different? All they're told is not to commit the most violent kinds of rape, which funnily enough, are the least common.

[Mudhammam]

Side Question: Is there an ethical distinction, in your opinions, between an older man (we'll say 40+) who has sex with a young girl (we'll say 15) and an older woman who has a relationship with a young man, same ages respectively?

As a footnote, when I was 18 I was in a relationship with a 49 year old woman. While it shocked our friends and family, I don't think we received quite the same amount of attention that we would have if our genders had been reversed. Is this a sensible double standard?