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Active listening within friendships
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 RE: Active listening within friendships
July 23, 2016 at 10:48 am
(This post was last modified: July 23, 2016 at 10:49 am by robvalue.)
What I find very useful is to paraphrase back to someone what I think they are telling me, in my own words. This shows I've been listening, it gives me the chance to see if I've understood correctly, and the other person can correct any misunderstandings.
Obviously this is something that would summarise a section of conversation, not something to do after every sentence. 
If I'm understanding you correctly, you're saying that while you think active listening can be overdone, you'd also like others to read this article and offer their own opinions so that you can benefit from their thoughts?
 RE: Active listening within friendships
July 23, 2016 at 12:05 pm
(This post was last modified: July 23, 2016 at 12:06 pm by Edwardo Piet.)
Yes, but also so they and others can perhaps benefit from the article -- and the parts I quoted that I find helps me -- too.
So, to clarify: I agree completely except that it's not only for my own benefit 
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What got you thinking about this, if you don't mind sharing?
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Be careful what you wish for. In most of my day to day conversations (friend or not), the other person does not want to hear my conclusions/observations of active listening. They are much more comfortable with passive listening and passive response.
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... Sorry? I, er, wasn't listening.
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 (July 23, 2016 at 3:49 pm)mh.brewer Wrote: Be careful what you wish for. In most of my day to day conversations (friend or not), the other person does not want to hear my conclusions/observations of active listening. They are much more comfortable with passive listening and passive response. I get that a lot as well (and I've been told that I'm a VERY good listener). I can usually suss out if they actually want advice or just want to yak. First (once they stop for breath), I'll ask - sincerely - 'What can I do?'. If they want advice/help, they'll generally tell me once the opening is given. If they seem to ignore my offer, I tend to let them run on until they clearly feel better and I'll try to wrap up the convo with something like, 'Good talk' or 'Glad I was here for you'. Boru
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