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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 3:32 pm
to a degree in my case, 'changes' in what I'm attracted to have been a result of my realizing more precisely what I find attractive
when I was younger, it was big hairy guys. Well what is the underlying theme there? Turns out it is masculinity.
Men with 'whatever' that counts towards my masculinity index are hot. The right attitude sometimes is all it takes. Now if the right attitude is in a format that strongly resembles Matthew Fox, well,
WOOT !
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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 3:34 pm
(June 8, 2017 at 3:18 pm)JamieB Wrote: You guys are fucking awesome. Im the odd duck in most group, but I feel like your accepting of my unusual self.
One night stands its looks and sexual personality that helps attractiveness. In a relationship its going to take a lot more.
I haven't seen your odd side yet. I have no idea what you mean so far. I'm still waiting for the weirdness to poke out, but so far you fit in just fine. (Says the weirdo sitting in a room full of weirdos)
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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 3:38 pm
*continues "injecting personalities" into the toned young women of LA Galaxy San Diego*
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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 3:52 pm
(This post was last modified: June 8, 2017 at 3:53 pm by Regina.)
I had something relateable
I never used to be into feminine gay guys, I was actually an ignorant prick and was disgusted by it.
I got almost "catfished" this one time. Well not really, it was the guy in the photos, but he had somehow made himself look a lot more masculine than he actually was in person. I turned up to the date... he "acted" really gay, dressed kinda gay, and had fucking blue eyebrows... but something about him really attracted me, I don't know if it was his confidence or just that he was pretty objectively good looking, but I was so into it. Since then it's made me more open about dating more feminine guys (although I probably wouldn't date an outright drag queen even now) and exploring my own feminine side.
So yeah, I do think (to some extent anyway) your sexual preferences can change based on experience. I also used to be pretty much exclusively into typical blonde/nordic guys, until I started exploring my family history and culture more on my Southern European side, then I started being more interested in men from those kind of backgrounds.
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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 3:59 pm
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(June 8, 2017 at 2:46 pm)Khemikal Wrote: I'm completely certain that I'm not even nearly as handsome as my wife thinks I am. It can only be my super awesome personality. 
You're right. I can say the same. Pretty sure it's because we're talkers with a sense of humor and not overly awed by a nice ass - though plenty appreciative.
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I think it's both. Sometimes even the best personality can't make you attracted to someone. But also sometimes even the hottest body cannot make you attracted to someone with a bad personality.
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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 4:05 pm
Some of the best people I have known in my life are those that can't be described as attractive. Some of the traditionally "attractive" people I have met have some of the ugliest personalities I've ever encountered.
I prefer to get to know a person for who they are, not what they look like.
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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 4:06 pm
What makes a couple be able to evolve well, even past the traditional age of attraction? Does people's age of attraction just evolve, or does the "substantial" stuff just become more important?
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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 4:07 pm
I get that, Regina. I used to think my type was the cute, feminine, sweet voice type of girl, until I met one with more of a dude style. I visited her in Las Vegas and enjoyed every second. She once asked me if I'd still be into her if she started to request to be called him instead of her. Sure! She's awesome! (I still call her "she" per her request)
Only reason it didn't work out is that she parties waaaay too much, and I'm old and lazy for Mon-Mon drinking. Lol
Actually... I've also been attracted to a trans woman before...
I guess I just like what I like. Lol
Carry on.
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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 4:23 pm
I definitely think it's both... looks and personality... and that the two have a kind of symbiotic relationship; looks cause assumptions to be made about personality, and vice versa. Sometimes you can be attracted purely on character... such as on here where I'm just basically talking to a bunch of avatars... but nonetheless feel attraction to certain people, despite not knowing what they look like. And sometimes in those cases, it doesn't matter if they turn out... when they post a pic of themselves... to look completely different to how you imagined them... still attracted. So I think looks and personality are highly interwoven mentally, even if it looks like they're not.
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RE: Sexual Attraction
June 8, 2017 at 4:30 pm
It's absolutely both.
And when someone has both in spades........ holyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy........fuckkkkkkk.
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