I have a friend who tends to believe in the "give what she gets" mantra. If someone hurts her, she doesn't retaliate, but she will either dump him/her as a friend or she will simply not go out of her way the next time. If people are kind to her, she is kind in return. She doesn't intiate the kindness, she waits to see how someone will treat her, then she acts, accordingly. I guess it can prevent doormat syndrome. What do you think of the idea of "giving what you get?"
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Jesster
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It can probably work in some situations, but I really hate having a hard rule like this to live by. Life isn't ever this simple and exceptions always show up.
I don't believe you. Get over it.
Basic human reciprocity. It's workable, and it does work, at least up to a point.
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It reminds me of Stephen King's Rose Red television miniseries.
There's a powerful young girl who never speaks, and her sister informs everyone that the young girl retaliates to hate with hate and to love with love. Personally, I believe we should all be more like that.
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That seems like a pretty shallow, superficial and stunted way to go thru life. Smells of passive aggressive.
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 (July 18, 2017 at 4:07 pm)Jesster Wrote: It can probably work in some situations, but I really hate having a hard rule like this to live by. Life isn't ever this simple and exceptions always show up. What do you think the exception(s) would be? I guess you can't always give what you get in a career situation lol And she is very philanthropic actually, her "rule" applies to mainly social interactions with friends and her family. I find it curious because I think it makes sense in some ways as to not be taken advantage of which happens to me more than I would like, in my friendships. (July 18, 2017 at 4:15 pm)*Deidre* Wrote: What do you think the exception(s) would be? I guess you can't always give what you get in a career situation lol And she is very philanthropic actually, her "rule" applies to mainly social interactions with friends and her family. I find it curious because I think it makes sense in some ways as to not be taken advantage of which happens to me more than I would like, in my friendships. I think it should also be applied to the job situation. It would certainly teach rude customers to stop being so goddamn rude.
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~ Erin Hunter (July 18, 2017 at 4:12 pm)mh.brewer Wrote: That seems like a pretty shallow, superficial and stunted way to go thru life. Smells of passive aggressive. So how do you react when someone belittles you or betrays you, in some way? I don't believe in revenge but do you remain friends with people who don't treat you well?
Jesster
Your friendly neighborhood heathen Religious Views: I am the creator goddess. Prove me wrong. RE: Give what you get?
July 18, 2017 at 4:19 pm
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(July 18, 2017 at 4:15 pm)*Deidre* Wrote:(July 18, 2017 at 4:07 pm)Jesster Wrote: It can probably work in some situations, but I really hate having a hard rule like this to live by. Life isn't ever this simple and exceptions always show up. Well there is one big, obvious flaw I see in it right away. If everyone lived by this method, nobody would ever initiate kindness. Sometimes you have to be the one to smile first or you may find yourself never doing so. I've also put up some walls so I'm never taken advantage of again, but I didn't build them so high that nobody could ever get through.
I don't believe you. Get over it.
Yeah, probably better than just being nice to others, and hoping they'll be nice in return. That would get you taken advantage of.
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