Funeral or reveal party?

[Joods]

Gender reveal parties weren't a thing when I had my kids and if they were, I certainly never heard of them. One baby shower is good enough, IMO. I wanted to know with my firstborn. With my second, I did not want to know. Sorry, but in this instance, I believe that the death of a loved one outweighs a gender reveal party, which could have been rescheduled so that family members didn't have to choose between mourning a loved one and finding out the sex of a child who was at least three or four months away from arrival.

[CapnAwesome]

Gender reveal parties weren't a thing when I had my kids and if they were, I certainly never heard of them. One baby shower is good enough, IMO. I wanted to know with my firstborn. With my second, I did not want to know. Sorry, but in this instance, I believe that the death of a loved one outweighs a gender reveal party, which could have been rescheduled so that family members didn't have to choose between mourning a loved one and finding out the sex of a child who was at least three or four months away from arrival.

My siblings and I had our gender revealed on birth.

[vorlon13]

Mom squatted down in the corn field while husking ears and plopped me out and announced she'd had a boy. And that was the extent of my gender reveal.  She carried me over to the tractor and used some fence pincers to cut the cord and she tied it off with bailing wire.

Probably the only occasion I was ever in a corn field and not made to work.

[Chad32]

I'm a little late for this one. I don't like funerals, but I can see the point in making a final farewell to a departed loved one. I don't even care that much about a baby's gender before they're even born. If my wife really wanted me to be there, I'd tell her to reschedule. People will fly over from another state to catch a funeral. I don't think they'd do that for a gender reveal party.

[KevinM1]

Funeral. While the dead may not care, funerals are important for those grieving. It's a way to share sorrow, and to potentially strengthen bonds between remaining family and friends.

A gender reveal party strikes me as meaningless. Yeah, parties themselves can be fun in a general sense, these strike me as a way to weasel another baby shower out of people.

Aside: formal ettiquette rules make 0 sense because culture is always changing. Moreover, I don't find rigid rules of propriety to be significantly different than the arbitrary rules and restrictions of a religion. It's just another way to control the actions of another for some other purpose.

[c172]

I was discussing futurism in general on a thread asking something about millions of years from now and said that I enjoy thinking about the USA more in a 150 year or so time frame. Holidays and other ettiquette concerns would be interesting to consider in that question.

[LiamMcdaniel]

I understand that this is an older thread, but the dilemma you presented still carries its weight. Choosing between attending your adopted son's funeral and your daughter's baby gender reveal party would have been a tough decision back then as well.

[arewethereyet]

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