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I feel kind of uncomfortable going to counseling
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RE: I feel kind of uncomfortable going to counseling
(April 10, 2019 at 8:36 pm)Rev. Rye Wrote:
(April 10, 2019 at 6:55 pm)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote: Don't worry, it's Counseling from my college.

Ah, well, that makes it even less likely that your counselor is going to be like this:




Or this:



It's amazing 'science' always seems to 'find' whatever it is funded for, and never the oppsite. Drich.
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#22
RE: I feel kind of uncomfortable going to counseling
Going to therapy has changed my life for the better. there are still things I haven't discussed with my therapist, which is okay. There are things I will get to, eventually. There are some things I may never divulge; which is my choice.

I think you should keep in mind that you don't have to tell a therapist everything in the first session or first 100 sessions. Granted, you may not be getting the best insights if you're not being totally honest, but there's nothing wrong with holding some things back until you're more comfortable.

At some point, you'll have to decide which is greater... your fear of opening up to someone or your need to have an unbiased professional help you with your issues. Good luck.
If you're frightened of dying, and you're holding on, you'll see devils tearing your life away. But if you've made your peace, then the devils are really angels, freeing you from the Earth.
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RE: I feel kind of uncomfortable going to counseling
(April 10, 2019 at 7:37 pm)wyzas Wrote: I don't know you well enough to speculate further. I just believe that there is something(s) going on that's more than religion/parents.

What makes you think of that? That I made posts about abuse?

(April 10, 2019 at 7:54 pm)Rev. Rye Wrote:
(April 8, 2019 at 8:47 am)Der/die AtheistIn Wrote: I expressed my anger towards one of my parents mistakes multiple times. My anger has become serious, so I made an appointment for counseling. The problem is, I don't feel comfortable talking about this particular subject to my therapist. 
My parents' mistake has to do with religion, but I don't want counseling for my disagreement with religion. Yeah, religion makes me sometimes angry, but not to the point where I have problems controlling myself. I also don't fear being judged for my atheism on a regular basis. I don't know if my therapist is religious or not, and as much as I complained about religious in the past - including moderates - I won't mind my counselor being religious. All that I want from him is that he does his job right. I don't want to discuss with my therapist whenever religion is good or bad or how to live as an atheist, I just want to discuss with him about the fact that I was brainwashed by fundamentalists for almost a decade right under my parents noses, and when they found out they didn't understand how bad the situation was.
Here in Europe people are usually more indifferent towards other religions and atheism and most christians are moderates. But part of me still fears that my therapist might want to convince me to return to my religion. 
Also, I never talked directly to someone about my parents' mistake. The most I did was writing on this forum where nobody knows my real name. I know that the counselor will keep my secret and I met him before, I highly doubt that he'll judge me, but I still feel very uncomfortable talking to him about this.
What should I do?

At least in America, doctor-patient confidentiality also applies to therapists and counselors. I'm fairly certain things should be the same in Germany Romania. And going from my own experience with my therapist, if a counselor is actually doing their job right, they'll do what they can to help you heal; hell, she not only helped me heal, she also helped some other woman heal from psychological wounds inflicted in the same Lutheran school I got mine in. They're probably not likely to be looking for debate like the theists on this board. We do discuss religion and its excesses from time to time, but they're like Lt. Scheisskopf's wife said in Catch-22. In her words: “I don’t [believe in God]... But the God I don’t believe in is a good God, a just God, a merciful God. He’s not the mean and stupid God you make Him out to be.” (The exchange happens in Chapter 18, by the way; I'm Yossarian in this conversation.)

And I was going to say something about how religion is even less likely to be an issue in Germany (Especially if you lived in the former East Germany), but then I actually looked at your profile and found out that you were actually in Romania, the one Warsaw Pact state that actually actively used the pre-existing religion to further its agenda. That might complicate things a bit. Still, if a therapist is doing their job right, they won't try to convert you.

Actually, I study in Austria and I'm going to counseling from my college. But my homecountry is Romania.
"By simple common sense I don't believe in God, in none"

Charlie Chaplin
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#24
RE: I feel kind of uncomfortable going to counseling
Ah, well, then you're less likely to find some counselor trying to railroad you back into the faith.
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