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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
November 17, 2011 at 3:08 pm
Here's something I just found on the comments thread:
One person, named "Stephanie" talked to the guy and talked about how she was molested by her Mormon bishop at the age of five.
Crook's response: "what did you do to invite it? Are you so arrogant to think that you would be approached unprovoked? Get over yourself."
I honestly hope that I think that Michael Crook ends up in the place of Juror 10 here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gTDhgR3p12w
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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
November 17, 2011 at 3:54 pm
(November 17, 2011 at 2:45 pm)Heather Wrote: (((HUGS))) Thank you for sharing your story. I know that was not easy. I can't imagine going through all of that. You are a very strong person.
I don't feel strong. I feel pathetic. And I just destroyed my self-defensive 'internet tough girl' image... so I can't even hide behind brazen bravado and apathy about this.
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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
November 17, 2011 at 5:53 pm
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Being strong isn't about an image but a quality one posseses. By speaking about it you have shown toughness and the will to educate others with a story most people wouldn't have the strength to share. In other words, you have shown you still kick ass  .
While I do feel apathy is a good response to many things in life, trauma such as this is not one of them. Yours is a natural reaction, becasue as I'm sure it pains you to realize it, you're a human being. We won't hold it against you  .
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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
November 17, 2011 at 6:02 pm
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(November 17, 2011 at 3:54 pm)Vaeolet Lilly Blossom Wrote: I don't feel strong. I feel pathetic. And I just destroyed my self-defensive 'internet tough girl' image... so I can't even hide behind brazen bravado and apathy about this.
If it makes you feel better, most of us never believed it.  I won't give you a huge "I'm sorry" spiel. You know how I feel, I think.
(November 17, 2011 at 4:59 am)edk141 Wrote: I'm not proposing anything, I just get annoyed with feminists saying that. I mean being taught how not to get raped (if it's even possible) doesn't have any downsides, right? It's just pragmatic.
There are no feminists here. Teach them how to kick a guy's ass in stilettos.
(November 17, 2011 at 6:30 am)Tiberius Wrote: I agree with edk141. In an ideal world, rape would not happen. We don't live in an ideal world. Just as everyone should lock their door to prevent a burglary, every potential rape victim should carry some sort of protection (rape alarm, pepper spray, etc). It doesn't mean it's their fault if they get raped, but it might just decrease the chances of that happening in the first place.
Bravo! You mentioned actual defense mechanisms. Clothing is no such thing, unless it is some sort of chastity garb.
Every single woman, man and child on the planet is a potential rape victim. While I strongly advocate carrying something to protect yourself, it just isn't feasible. I carried pepper spray with me when I drove across the country, but that is about it. I just try to avoid bad situations, such as sketchy parties and alleys late at night. Of course, there is still my home, which a skilled robber could enter regardless of the locks on my doors, but I have to take that risk. We all do.
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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
November 17, 2011 at 7:14 pm
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****** Wrote:I no how it feels when I lost my virginity I was raped. By the guy I was in love with none the less... He would have gotten it eventually. But I wasnt ready when he wanted it so he held me down and took a mile away from my house. Then when he was done he got up smiled at me and asked me how it was. And because I had no where else to go I stayed with him for two years while he verbally, mentaly, sexually and phsically abused me. When I finally left it wasnt for those reasons. It was because I found a meth pipe in his sweater pocket. Everything made sense at that momment. He eneded up doing far more damage then even I knew... Now that I finally found a good guy I still flinch when he reaches out to touch me to fast. And no matter how long im not with the abuser I will never forget what he has done to me and many other girls. U r not alone. Im so happy u have someone new also.
I have gotten so many more stories like this than I would have liked since I posted a quick indirect synopsis of what happened to me... I'm shaking so much now. :S
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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
November 17, 2011 at 7:26 pm
(November 17, 2011 at 7:14 pm)Vaeolet Lilly Blossom Wrote: ****** Wrote:I no how it feels when I lost my virginity I was raped. By the guy I was in love with none the less... He would have gotten it eventually. But I wasnt ready when he wanted it so he held me down and took a mile away from my house. Then when he was done he got up smiled at me and asked me how it was. And because I had no where else to go I stayed with him for two years while he verbally, mentaly, sexually and phsically abused me. When I finally left it wasnt for those reasons. It was because I found a meth pipe in his sweater pocket. Everything made sense at that momment. He eneded up doing far more damage then even I knew... Now that I finally found a good guy I still flinch when he reaches out to touch me to fast. And no matter how long im not with the abuser I will never forget what he has done to me and many other girls. U r not alone. Im so happy u have someone new also.
I have gotten so many more stories like this than I would have liked since I posted a quick indirect synopsis of what happened to me... I'm shaking so much now. :S
VlB, your's is a burden much too large for any one person to support alone. Please take my advice and go to a rape/abuse support group. It is not a weakness to seek help. Do something good for yourself and actively try to heal the wounds that so many have put on you. You are too good of a person to be walking around hurting like this. You deserve better than this, seek help.
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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
November 17, 2011 at 7:45 pm
(November 17, 2011 at 7:26 pm)Ziploc Surprise Wrote: VlB, your's is a burden much too large for any one person to support alone.
I've done it for years, and I have a girlfriend I can finally cry around. I have years of tears to cry, I'll get to them eventually.
Quote:Please take my advice and go to a rape/abuse support group. It is not a weakness to seek help.
No. Friends are all the support group I need, and it's enough that the important people know.
Quote:Do something good for yourself and actively try to heal the wounds that so many have put on you.
I've discovered a latent wealth of creativity within me now that I'm away from the worst of them. Many of those 'wounds' are scars. Scars don't heal.
Quote:You are too good of a person to be walking around hurting like this. You deserve better than this, seek help.
Both questionable thoughts. I have a girlfriend to care for right now, an amazing person I didn't and don't deserve. But I'm not complaining.
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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
November 18, 2011 at 1:00 pm
(November 18, 2011 at 11:00 am)aleialoura Wrote: Mormons, Muslims, same diff?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=pla...hgKcFXfRA0
Holy Shit!
May the separation between church and state be praised lest these assholes enact sharia law in places where they have a large enough majority to do so.
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RE: Mormon: "There is no such thing as rape."
November 18, 2011 at 2:19 pm
I think that's a bullshit video. The guy doesn't speak for all Muslims and he quoted hadiths (or speeches of Muhammad that were collected and written down 200 years after his death) that doesn't specifically say that raping is OK. That's his own interpretation and I don't agree with it. Why? Because I'm very sure that rape is a crime and a sin in Islam. The religion has a strict rule against rape and the punishment for such behavior can range from 100 lashes (or X number of lashes) as a minimum punishment to even a death sentence.
Also, there are many verses in the Quran which emphasize the importance of treating one's wife with respect and to be patient with them. Example: "O you who believe! You are forbidden to inherit women against their will. Nor should you treat them with harshness, that you may take away part of the dowry you have given them - except when they have become guilty of open lewdness. On the contrary, live with them on a footing of kindness and equity. If you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike something and God will bring about through it a great deal of good." [Surah 4:19]
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