(October 4, 2012 at 2:35 pm)festive1 Wrote: Not my hubby and kids, just my parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, etc. I'm seriously tired of dealing with their shit. Sorry, I'm just whining... I have to call my mom and explain why I haven't called her (though I've texted on several occasions) for 2 months... le sigh.
Perhaps I could fake my death...
My kids are older; 25 and 22. Can I throw one in to sweaten the deal? I fear that once we look at our hands after swapping that we will both still have shitty hands. You say whining, I say venting. We don't have a choice regarding our extended family.
I think I am fortunate. My mother had nine brothers and sisters resulting in me having 21 cousins. My youngest aunt is only six years older than I am. She's cool. There are a couple of uncles that I talk to with some frequency, and the few cousins that I grew up with can pick my brain. None of these people come close to the relationship I have with my friends. This fact bothered me for a little time, but I realized that I got to choose my friends. The members of my familiy that I am close to remind me of my friends.
I don't have many friends. I'd like to think I make up in quality what I lack in quantity, despite the natural friends I 'should' enjoy coming from a large family. Part of this problem is that I don't just throw around the term 'friend'.
Am I now whining? Perhaps. Fuck family unless they earn your trust as your friends had to. Genetic proximity to a womb is not a reasoned basis for demands on your time and affection.
