Gf Says No Kids = Loneliness?

[Annik]

If you want kids, have them. If you don't, don't.

[Mister Agenda]

I have heard worse reasons to have children than 'so you won't be lonely', but not many. Because you want to have a child to love: yes. Because you want to have a chld to love you: no.

[goddamnit]

I left out important information. It is not that I dislike kids. I just don't want my own (biological) kid. I would even consider adoption or being with a single mom. But I guess there would likely not be such a strong bond that way?

[jackman]

big brother big sister programs are cool. you get to take them for fun times and take them back for the rest. most non-committal thing i can think of.

[frankiej]

You could always kidnap a baby, spend some time with it and then eat it once you are done.

[Napoléon]

You could always kidnap a baby, spend some time with it and then eat it once you are done.

NO FRANKIE!!!!!!!!!!

There are psycho's out there who might actually take you seriously, you should be responsible enough not to say such things!!!

[The Grand Nudger]

I have heard worse reasons to have children than 'so you won't be lonely', but not many. Because you want to have a child to love: yes. Because you want to have a chld to love you: no.

You forgot the three most important reasons, tax credits, welfare eligibility, and citizenship anchors.

-Personally, I just got tired of mowing my own lawn-

[Ben Davis]

I told my girlfriend I don't want to have kids. She told me I'm gonna be lonely without a family as time goes on. My friend said his mom told him this too.

I guess that in high school, you don't need your own kids to not be lonely? But as you get older, that changes because friends have their own families? I miss simple truths in life, so someone please explain this to me.

The important thing is to recognise your gf's subtext. Hearing that you don't want kids seems to have triggered a realisation in her that she might. It also seems that she's been raised with the idea that 'family is something you should do', maybe something along the lines of 'your kids look after you when you're old' hence the association between 'absence of kids' and 'lonliness'. Her comments could indicate that you're after different types of relationships. You should definitely have a broader discussion about what you both want out of life before you go too far in the relationship because kids are a big deal to a lot of people.

[Oldandeasilyconfused]

I told my girlfriend I don't want to have kids. She told me I'm gonna be lonely without a family as time goes on.

You may be,if you are a person who defines himself by his relationships. Having children to avoid loneliness is a pretty shallow and rather stupid reason.

There are also far worse things than being lonely. PLUS there is no need to be lonely if one is ambulatory and moderately sane.

I did not have children through choice. Do I regret that decision? Sometimes a bit,but overall, no. Am I lonely as a result? No.


No offence,but your girlfriend sounds either stupid, dishonest or perhaps just shallow. You may change your mind. I did not. But please,do not have even one child unless YOU want to.

[Reforged]

Kids are assholes when you're a kid, they're assholes when you're a teenager and they're assholes when you're an adult.
Now, call me silly but I for one am alittle hesitant to bring more of the little shits into the world.