Your friend tells you they're a paedophile

[ReptilianPeon]

[c172]

Tipsy random question tiiiime

Why do we Brits (well not me, I use the American spelling) put an "a" in pAedophile? What does this "a" do? It's not said "paydophile"

Hipster are you?

[Edwardo Piet]

[Aractus]

Let's pretend you have a friend, and you're a parent. You've known this friend a long time. You trust them, and you believe they are a good person.

I don't think most people understand that human sexuality is on a continuum. Especially not the people in this thread.

Some people are 100% Heterosexual, others are 100% Homosexual, and still others are 100% Asexual. Or a combination thereof. People can also have a sexual orientation to children AND adults, or to adults only, or to children only. Paedophilia is the sexual attraction to prepubescent children. No doubt a strong sense of morality helps to alleviate some of the sexual attraction, but like with homosexuality you can't expect that alone to prevent it. People have been expressing homosexuality throughout the centuries even in cultures where they themselves felt it was morally wrong.

[robvalue]

Condescension, and the implication that sex between consenting adults is immoral and somehow comparable to sex with a child.

Welcome back to my ignore list, I see you've made no progress. These days gay do not generally consider their urges immoral, unless they are raised by people like you.

[Excited Penguin]

It's not just a sense of morality. It's the knowledge that you'll be destroying someone's life forever just for a moment of gratification. That and the threat of jail and ostracization.

To be a pedophile "unable" to control yourself with those two things in mind is to be a moral monster, otherwise I can't see how someone who would have so little or no control over their actions would be able to pass as normal, talk about their issues and have the the mental balance required to plan the act, if it comes to that. That is bullshit, IMO.

[ReptilianPeon]

[deleteduser12345]

I want to be as rational as possible, but I can't deny that if this really happened, it'd be hard to be. I would've probably distanced myself from that person or maybe slowly cut contact? I just really dislike the idea of this situation, and at the same time it sucks that it wouldn't be their choice. I would be civil though, of course.

[Aractus]

Condescension, and the implication that sex between consenting adults is immoral and somehow comparable to sex with a child.

That is just not true.

[AceBoogie]

I answer A to every question. I'm sure there is some room in this world for sympathy for these people, but not from me. I wouldn't cause them any harm as long as they truly didn't do anything to harm my children, or any other children for that matter. They would have to leave my house and I would probably notify all the other parents I knew in the neighborhood or whatever.

I have NO mercy or sympathy for people who harm kids or have fantasies about harming kids. NONE. That's the most I feel comfortable saying on that subject.

But no, this is not something I could tolerate, even if it was just in their head.