In support of the rage of man

[Athene]

[tackattack]

@Mathilda They're both seeking to satisfy chemical responses, the only difference is the aim and methods I would imagine. The problem, as I see it is we are not as well adapted to our environment as we would hope. We have very complex biologic structures to which we have very little insight. We (male and female) instinctively, in the absence of reason and knowledge, revert to primitive behaviors that are reflected all throughout the animal community. If you could mimic a hierarchy found elsewhere in nature what would you pick and why? Currently I see a lot of lobsters in us and think I'd like to see more of an ant society.

[I_am_not_mafia]

bennyboy. You use the word triggered. Do you mean that literally as in something has connected with a traumatic event in your life? Because if so, your anger is a symptom of a deeper pain that needs to be healed.

[Amarok]

I hate to break it to you, but dominance hierarchies have been around since before trees. They're not social constructs from the floor up. Social constructs can amplify and reinforce negative feedback loops that are on top of the framework. I believe this is why the term "misogynistic male patriarch" was invented, it's a misnomer though. Only in the minutest minority are the guys out there seeking to subjugate women to secretaries because they fear a challenging opponent. Most are just doing what they feel it takes to get ahead and whatever cost they feel is appropriate. It wouldn't matter if you were a male or a female, but those types tend to pick easier fights. Men are driven to have the best stuff, and some of that stuff man wants is a high quality mate. It may differ from individual, time period and society what the definitions of "stuff" are but one particular drive is the opposite sex. It is definitely objectifying, but could changing women's selection criteria vary the formula enough to shake things up?

And everything in this paragraph is bullshit

[bennyboy]

What's the difference between the rage of man and the rage of woman?

Different hormonal mechanisms, I think.  I believe there are qualitative differences in what triggers rage, how it is experienced, and how it is expressed, that are ingrained at the level of evolved instinct.

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bennyboy. You use the word triggered. Do you mean that literally as in something has connected with a traumatic event in your life? Because if so, your anger is a symptom of a deeper pain that needs to be healed.

No, I mean triggered along the lines of fight/flight mechanism, i.e. a deep and automatic response that once a certain critical emotional mass is arrived at, is no longer in any way under control of the individual's conscious intent.

[The Grand Nudger]

If having a conversation can do that to you, ends up with you pitching shit across the room..you probably shouldn't be in any rooms with other people, or have conversations.

[bennyboy]

If having a conversation can do that to you, ends up with you pitching shit across the room..you probably shouldn't be in any rooms with other people, or have conversations.

Did you read the stories, dude?  In which story I expressed was I "having a conversation?"

But yes, the truth is that I talk to my wife much less than I used to. I'd rather avoid her than risk a confrontation that is going to make me feel frustrated.

[The Grand Nudger]

Did you or did you not just explain that being forced to listen to your harpy of a wife made you go "nerd-gorilla" and toss a tube tv across the room....?

I'm guessing that I don't even want to know the answer to why you respond to her in that way, or why you've decided that the best way going forward is just to talk to her less.

[Yonadav]

What's the difference between the rage of man and the rage of woman?

Different hormonal mechanisms, I think.  I believe there are qualitative differences in what triggers rage, how it is experienced, and how it is expressed, that are ingrained at the level of evolved instinct.

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I'll be a little more specific.

Some studies have recently revealed that women are the perpetrators of most unreciprocated  violence. Apparently women hit more frequently, but mostly in situations where no one will hit back.

Also, women are far more aggressive with rumor, innnuendo, and reputation destruction.

Also, rage in men subsides pretty quickly, and they frequently make peace with the person who has enraged them fairly quickly. Women are prone to remaining enraged over the long haul, and don't make peace with those who have enraged them so easily.

I rarely try to make peace with a woman who has become enraged with me. It's just not worth the trouble. If she gets over it, she gets over it. If she doesn't, I don't care.

[Amarok]

Did you or did you not just explain that being forced to listen to your harpy of a wife made you go "nerd-gorilla" and toss a tube tv across the room....?

I'm guessing that I don't even want to know the answer to why you respond to her in that way, or why you've decided that the best way going forward is just to talk to her less.

Because avoiding a problem is always a good way of solving it 

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'll be a little more specific.

Some studies have recently revealed that women are the perpetrators of most unreciprocated  violence. Apparently women hit more frequently, but mostly in situations where no one will hit back.

Also, women are far more aggressive with rumor, innnuendo, and reputation destruction.

Also, rage in men subsides pretty quickly, and they frequently make peace with the person who has enraged them fairly quickly. Women are prone to remaining enraged over the long haul, and don't make peace with those who have enraged them so easily.

I rarely try to make peace with a woman who has become enraged with me. It's just not worth the trouble. If she gets over it, she gets over it. If she doesn't, I don't care.

So more empty opining's