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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 26, 2020 at 9:05 pm
(November 26, 2020 at 4:41 pm)sdelsolray Wrote: How about telling your sister, "I will be a good uncle to and for your child", or something like that?
Sure I guess. All I’m saying is that I personally felt my god parents were more impactful than my uncles and aunts. Mostly because you don’t pick your blood family. This was a bond between my parents and god parents. If the Blood sister offered that to you, it’s a signal that she wants you more in her life and trusts you more. That’s what makes the title an honorarium, it’s the family you CAN choose.
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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 26, 2020 at 9:32 pm
Study this clip, and maybe grow a mustache and find some way to slick your hair back. I don’t think there’s been much of a run on hair gel during the pandemic.
I don’t know if you have mob ties, but it may help.
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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 29, 2020 at 9:56 am
@ arewethereyet Yes that is correct, I do not attend anything related to religion. Why would any Atheist attend any religious? To each their own, but doesn't anything that has to do with religion just seem odd.
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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 29, 2020 at 10:02 am
(November 29, 2020 at 9:56 am)Tomatoshadow2 Wrote: @arewethereyet Yes that is correct, I do not attend anything related to religion. Why would any Atheist attend any religious? To each their own, but doesn't anything that has to do with religion just seem odd.
So, is there nothing you do for the people in your life that doesn't align with your militant atheism?
You can easily attend and show your care and respect for people without actually participating. If they care enough to want you to attend you don't need to be an asshole about it.
I've attended plenty of Catholic weddings and funerals and even a Lutheran funeral...because it's the decent thing to do.
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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 29, 2020 at 10:22 am
(November 29, 2020 at 10:02 am)arewethereyet Wrote: So, is there nothing you do for the people in your life that doesn't align with your militant atheism?
You can easily attend and show your care and respect for people without actually participating. If they care enough to want you to attend you don't need to be an asshole about it.
I've attended plenty of Catholic weddings and funerals and even a Lutheran funeral...because it's the decent thing to do.
Too far.
He's allowed to make the choices he wants, and I so happen to agree with how he wants to lead his life.
I summarily removed myself from my family so that I would not have to attend any of their nonsense social gatherings.
You want to be a participating family member in your own family, you do you. But don't shame someone else for not doing what you're doing.
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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 29, 2020 at 10:28 am
@ arewethereyet Correct, anything involving religion, I don't care about. It's not being an asshole, it's staying true to myself, as I think you would agree, when you stay true to something that matters to you. No I would disagree, I don't think you can attend anything with a religious affiliation as an Atheist and feel invisible. Always some religious person there to share 'the good news'.
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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 29, 2020 at 10:33 am
(November 29, 2020 at 10:22 am)Eleven Wrote: (November 29, 2020 at 10:02 am)arewethereyet Wrote: So, is there nothing you do for the people in your life that doesn't align with your militant atheism?
You can easily attend and show your care and respect for people without actually participating. If they care enough to want you to attend you don't need to be an asshole about it.
I've attended plenty of Catholic weddings and funerals and even a Lutheran funeral...because it's the decent thing to do.
Too far.
He's allowed to make the choices he wants, and I so happen to agree with how he wants to lead his life.
I summarily removed myself from my family so that I would not have to attend any of their nonsense social gatherings.
You want to be a participating family member in your own family, you do you. But don't shame someone else for not doing what you're doing.
I suppose I would have made a real important statement about something had I refused to attend my grandparents' funerals. That statement would have been that I was an uncaring asshole.
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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 29, 2020 at 10:35 am
(November 29, 2020 at 10:33 am)arewethereyet Wrote: I suppose I would have made a real important statement about something had I refused to attend my grandparents' funerals. That statement would have been that I was an uncaring asshole.
According to you, yes. You cannot place your subjective emotions onto others.
Did I attend my grandmother's funeral? Nope.
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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 29, 2020 at 10:36 am
(November 29, 2020 at 10:28 am)Tomatoshadow2 Wrote: @arewethereyet Correct, anything involving religion, I don't care about. It's not being an asshole, it's staying true to myself, as I think you would agree, when you stay true to something that matters to you. No I would disagree, I don't think you can attend anything with a religious affiliation as an Atheist and feel invisible. Always some religious person there to share 'the good news'.
Catholic weddings and funeral masses are about the marriage or death of the person(s) involved. I was never preached to by anyone wanting to share the good news. Some people know how to act appropriately. There's a time and a place for everything and those ceremonies aren't the time or the place for soul-saving.
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RE: Sister asked me to be 'God father' to her son
November 29, 2020 at 10:37 am
(November 29, 2020 at 10:35 am)Eleven Wrote: (November 29, 2020 at 10:33 am)arewethereyet Wrote: I suppose I would have made a real important statement about something had I refused to attend my grandparents' funerals. That statement would have been that I was an uncaring asshole.
According to you, yes. You cannot place your subjective emotions onto others.
Did I attend my grandmother's funeral? Nope. I have lost some respect for you simply based on your selfishness.
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