Custody Battle Update Thingy

[Minimalist]

Some guys are just destined to be shitty fathers, Alei.

[downbeatplumb]

Isnt that tackattack?

[kılıç_mehmet]

HUGE victory in court today. It was a pre-trial conference, and I was awarded a trial, all of the evidence i submitted to discovery was admitted, all my witnesses were approved, and what's best... my daughter was assigned a guardian ad litem.

The evidence:

- Over 100 photos of her father drinking with, and literally feeding (via beer funnel) minors alcohol.

- Two orders of protection, signed by a judge to protect his soon to be ex wife and children.

- A court order that suspends his standard visitation with his older two children on the grounds of alcoholism and abuse.

- A police report stating they had to remove his children from his care because he was too intoxicated to care for them.

- 27 witnesses.

- Six videos of my daughter having panic attacks while we're driving her home, being so terrified she defecated on herself, and accusing him of beating her with belts, making her drink beer before bed at night, and locking her in her room.

- Audio recordings of him calling me a whore for wearing perfume, and saying our 3 year old daughter is a whore because I put perfume on her, and calling my neighbor the "N" word.

They've cleared out six ours of court time for the trial, which isn't until August 13th, BUT she has a guardian ad litem now, so when I meet with her next week and show her all this stuff, she can go to court within weeks and ask the judge to give me emergency temporary custody, pending final hearing.

I am really happy with the way things are going, and I just know before long I will have my daughter home, safe with me.

Wow, don't mind my honesty, aleia, but did you search really hard for his kind of men to get pregnant from?
Still, good that you got the custody for your child. He seems to be an awful person.

[Faith No More]

Not only should you get custody, the court should keep this guy away from all children.

[Autumnlicious]

Wow, don't mind my honesty, aleia, but did you search really hard for his kind of men to get pregnant from?
Still, good that you got the custody for your child. He seems to be an awful person.

Amazingly enough, people manage to convince others that they're one thing while being something else.

Didn't you see where Mr. Dumbass-Father managed to convince the courts he was A-OK for a year? And only when they stopped watching him, did the mask get removed?

The games people play...

[Erinome]

It took so long because his mother has paid her entire life savings to secure him legal counsel- the best in Nashville. They've been keeping it tied up for months. Also, the Child Protective Services case worker was fired 3 weeks ago for not doing her job (I'm a fucking boss when you piss me off), and the case just got re-opened. She got all giggly talking about him on the phone, like she was just crazy about him.

That leads me to answer your question, mehmet. He is very handsome, and extremely charming, I met him through a mutual friend who was helping me get hooked up with a steady weed man... he was the steady weed man. He begged me for a couple of weeks to go out with him, until I finally broke down and agreed. He took me out to dinner at a romantic bistro downtown, and then stopped traffic to dance with me in the street to the sound of honking angry people. He convinced me he was happily separated from his wife, and I believed him because he was so affectionate with me right in front of his entire family. We dated for 4 months, and then when I found out I was pregnant, he promised he'd stay with me, that we'd get a place together, etc..

We had sex AGAIN that night, and before I left, he told me to call him in the morning. I did call him, but his sister answered and informed me that he had gone to pick up his wife and kids and moved back to Alabama. I didn't hear from him or see him again until our daughter was 9 months old. He told his entire family that we never had sex, and I had to subpoena his DNA. When the judge read the DNA results, there were only 2 not shocked faces in the room, and one of them was his.

Anyway, here we are now. I regret ever seeking him out. I just did it because I didn't know he was THAT horrible, and my daughter, I thought, deserved to know her father.

I think he should be locked up, personally. Lizzy has suffered so much because of all this, I just hope it's resolved quickly for her sake, and she gets to be in the only place she wants to be (with me) very soon.

His high dollar legal council was speechless after I got done today. Then when we left the courtroom, his entourage started shouting that I was a liar in the hall outside the courtroom. They made a big dramatic scene, pretending to have to be held back from kicking my ass. His lawyer said to him "You're going to lose custody if you keep bringing your family that acts like this."

I wanted to say, "He's gonna lose custody anyway!", but I kept my dignity, and walked out smiling, with my head held high. He made a big show of the three rows of friends and family he brought with him. "See how much support I have.", but I explained to the judge that I understood that there was limited seating in the courtroom, and I am perfectly capable of attending court alone, as I am an independent, and fierce foxy female mother bear. It was awesome, and I have been flying high all day, knowing that my daughter is going to be safe very soon, and that he is probably on his best behavior right now.

Thanks to all my AF friends for your words of support!

[Whateverist]

It is always sad when a child can't have both parents in her life, but its still better this way than to have her endangered by an alcoholic and immature man with no real investment in his spawn. First he denies she's his, then he squanders his mother's savings to fight to to win her away from you. What a .. what's the word? Fucktard!

[kılıç_mehmet]

Wow, don't mind my honesty, aleia, but did you search really hard for his kind of men to get pregnant from?
Still, good that you got the custody for your child. He seems to be an awful person.

Amazingly enough, people manage to convince others that they're one thing while being something else.

Didn't you see where Mr. Dumbass-Father managed to convince the courts he was A-OK for a year? And only when they stopped watching him, did the mask get removed?

The games people play...

Well, cunning games, for sure.
And I was just about to read how he managed to steal poor aleia's heart.

It took so long because his mother has paid her entire life savings to secure him legal counsel- the best in Nashville. They've been keeping it tied up for months. Also, the Child Protective Services case worker was fired 3 weeks ago for not doing her job (I'm a fucking boss when you piss me off), and the case just got re-opened. She got all giggly talking about him on the phone, like she was just crazy about him.

Well, mothers are like that. Especially when it comes to their sons and grandchildren.

That leads me to answer your question, mehmet. He is very handsome, and extremely charming, I met him through a mutual friend who was helping me get hooked up with a steady weed man... he was the steady weed man. He begged me for a couple of weeks to go out with him, until I finally broke down and agreed. He took me out to dinner at a romantic bistro downtown, and then stopped traffic to dance with me in the street to the sound of honking angry people. He convinced me he was happily separated from his wife, and I believed him because he was so affectionate with me right in front of his entire family. We dated for 4 months, and then when I found out I was pregnant, he promised he'd stay with me, that we'd get a place together, etc..

I don't know what a steady weed man is, but I'll take a guess, like someone who constantly smokes marijuana, ja?
And well, this all sounds like a romantic comedy movie, I can figure why he appeared to be such a lovely man to you.

We had sex AGAIN that night, and before I left, he told me to call him in the morning. I did call him, but his sister answered and informed me that he had gone to pick up his wife and kids and moved back to Alabama. I didn't hear from him or see him again until our daughter was 9 months old. He told his entire family that we never had sex, and I had to subpoena his DNA. When the judge read the DNA results, there were only 2 not shocked faces in the room, and one of them was his.

Well, I think that he must have blinded you, as you probably did not do the proper background search when getting involved with married men.
Even though they say that they're divorced, I mean.
Why did he come back, I wonder.

Anyway, here we are now. I regret ever seeking him out. I just did it because I didn't know he was THAT horrible, and my daughter, I thought, deserved to know her father.

Now he wants the custody of the child, eh?
I wonder how he convinced his other family to accept a child from another mother.

I think he should be locked up, personally. Lizzy has suffered so much because of all this, I just hope it's resolved quickly for her sake, and she gets to be in the only place she wants to be (with me) very soon.

Well, I think that you should try to control yourself in the future better, aleia.
At the end, it comes to you whether to reject or allow is advances. I think if there is a blame on the background of this story, it's on both sides.
For the custody of the child, well, you're not married, he seems to have a wife and other children aswell...So meaning, he conceived a child while he was married and had other kids. He shouldn't get much sympathy in front of the jury. He certainly got none from me in this regard.

I wanted to say, "He's gonna lose custody anyway!", but I kept my dignity, and walked out smiling, with my head held high. He made a big show of the three rows of friends and family he brought with him. "See how much support I have.", but I explained to the judge that I understood that there was limited seating in the courtroom, and I am perfectly capable of attending court alone, as I am an independent, and fierce foxy female mother bear. It was awesome, and I have been flying high all day, knowing that my daughter is going to be safe very soon, and that he is probably on his best behavior right now.

Well, his family and relatives and friends, yes, they're important, but I'm not sure how they're going to change court proceedings.

[thesummerqueen]

I'm sorry...what is she supposed to control herself from?

[Chuff]

Hey - hope this all goes well for you - I went through a court custody battle for my son about 11 years ago, it was me versus my boy's crazy (then) junkie mother.

I really do feel for you having to go through this utter emotional meatgrinder.

But it sounds like you've got a pretty airtight case and you've definitely gone about it the right way collating the evidence like you have - From what I've read it should be a foregone conclusion. Best of luck