How to gain and lose a friend in 2 weeks.

[Oldandeasilyconfused]

About 2 weeks ago,I received a message on Facebook from a woman called K-- I worked with over 30 years ago. I had some pleasant memories,so we started writing.

Things went spiffingly for a week or so. Then I referred to my ex wife as'crune punt'---- WRRRONNNNG!!! I had not realised K--- is a radical,militant feminist. Got right off her bike. Seems I'm a misogynist, suffering from the "international gynaenophobic zeitgeist" .Then came an in depth psychological profile, with advice.

There was a bit of tooing-and froing. I apologised for any inadvertent offence, explained but did not apologise for my feelings and agreed to differ on ideology.

THAT was not good enough,there was a demand that I change the way I feel and effectively adopt a radical feminist view. The attitude sounded familiar, I don't know why .

I replied that I do not allow others to decide how I 'should' feel about anything or my values.That in any case I cannot change my feelings on demand. That I love and accept my friends as they are. I expect nothing more from them and will accept nothing less.

That was two days ago,no reply. Guess I should learn to be more tactful,but I probably won't. I will however stop referring to my ex as crune punt.

[Violet]

I will however stop referring to my ex as crune punt.

Nooooo!

Come off it, Pad: don't let an insane feminist get to you

Is it any wonder I'm not friends with any 'feminist'? 0.o

[Aegrus]

I typically agree with feminists. But in cases like this. . . some people seem to be unable to understand that there's a difference between insulting someone because you don't like them, and insulting someone because they're a woman.

[Minimalist]

I recall a greeting card from maybe 30years ago which said on the front...

I'm glad you're a feminist.

Inside it said: I always wanted to fuck one.

[Tiberius]

I agree with feminists up to the point of equal rights, but no further.

[Cinjin]

I like feminists just fine ....... when they're men.

[Kayenneh]

Militant feminism is disgusting and narrow-minded.

[KichigaiNeko]

Fuck em pad! Nice that she tracked you down but she is soooo not wanting to nor listening to YOUR side of the crune punt issue.

You're better off sans such nostalgia mate.

[kılıç_mehmet]

I never lost a friend. If I lost a friend, that "friend" was never a friend of mine to begin with.

[Oldandeasilyconfused]

I never lost a friend. If I lost a friend, that "friend" was never a friend of mine to begin with.

I used the word 'friend' in the broadest sense of the word.


A couple of definitions about friendship I like:

A friend is a person who knows you really well but likes you anyway. (anon)

A friend will help you move. A GOOD friend will help you move a body (Alexie Sale)

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Fuck em pad! Nice that she tracked you down but she is soooo not wanting to nor listening to YOUR side of the crune punt issue.

You're better off sans such nostalgia mate.

Yup. As they say

nostalgia ain't what it used to be,but then, it never was